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Just curious how others here deal with famiy inflicted garage scratches.

I have found scratches from setting things on the car, and then dragging the item as it is picked up, varoius brush against scratches, and now came back from vacation to find one that can't be corrected on the rear bumer. It is small but nonetheless I'm po'd.

My stepson is 18, and he and his buddies like to hang out in the garage. My wife bought him a used 335i and I corrected the paint and applied crystal seal to the paint. I demonstrated the 2 bucket wash, rinsless wash, and the proper towels to use. A month later the 335i looks as swirled out as the day they brought it home. I have seen him use the micros and toss them on the ground, as well as do a 1 bucket wash. Too boot he overuses, and misuses the products, leaves them on the floor etc. I also suspect some of his buddies have made off with some of my supplies. It is obvoius he dosn't give a crap, and I am growing very tired of the situation. I'm about ready to make the garage off limits by locking it from both sides and disabling the garage door. Of course the wife would get pissed off. I guess I could cover the ZL1, but don't really like the scratching risk. Maybe a super large micro before the cover?

Any others have this issue?
 
Nor Cal ZL1 said:
I'm about ready to make the garage off limits by locking it from both sides and disabling the garage door. Of course the wife would get pissed off.
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I honestly would have done the same.

Family or no family, some people just need to show some respect. If the wife gets upset - IMHO - it's the price worth paying. If not, get ready to deal with the same ole' bullshit years and years to come.

Honesty hurts sometimes, and some people deserved to have it serve cold.
 
It's that 18 year old mentality what can you do.
 
A little searching and I found a micro lined cover. Might give this a try regardless.

American Armor Car Cover (Cover Security Kit included)- Gray

I agree with the 18 year mentality, and being a step parent makes it even worse. I dont mind things happening, thats life, but he know how OCD I am about this car, but nonetheless he and his friends continues to inflict little bits of damage. Until now all of it has been correctable. Its a small scratch most normal people would think I was tripping, but I know it probably was caused by whipping an extension cord across the garage so they could keep their phones charged up. The theft of some of my supplies, and some racing fuel additives have me about ready to snap.

As posted above I should just lock it up, but then I will be the bad guy over reacting. When I asked about the race fuel addititive, there was no reply. To add to it when the car is left behind when we go out of town, I remove the fuses needed to start the car as an added measure against joy riding, lock it and take the keys. I suspect his friends are about 50% responsible for this crap. Uggg.
 
The ZL1 is the one getting scatched in the garage. I corrected his 335i once. Now it is a swirled mess and I could care less. I demonstrated how to take care of it, and where scratch's come from. Next day I find him throwing micro drying towells on the driveway, and then picking them up and using them again. I asked him where do scratches come from, he said dirt, umm ok where did you just drop the drying towell. I have taken my best products and locked them up.

His lack of caring is carrying over to my car in the garage.
 
Nor Cal ZL1 said:
The ZL1 is the one getting scatched in the garage. I corrected his 335i once. Now it is a swirled mess and I could care less. I demonstrated how to take care of it, and where scratch's come from. Next day I find him throwing micro drying towells on the driveway, and then picking them up and using them again. I asked him where do scratches come from, he said dirt, umm ok where did you just drop the drying towell. I have taken my best products and locked them up.

His lack of caring is carrying over to my car in the garage.
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I feel your pain, this is how my wife treats her car. But she still wants me to keep it up. I do a few passes of M205 per year, shine it up, and then let her swirl it up the rest of the year.
 
rlmccarty2000 said:
Shoot them and hide the bodies real deep. Just kidding (maybe)
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Thought about it when my race gas concentrate went missing. $100 bucks worth and none of his friends or himself own any car that would benefit from high octane fuel.... total waste. Then some of my wash mits disappeared, later waterless wash micros and detail spray. Its like they don't think I'm OCD or something.... yea he won't notice that..... just like the times I busted then joyriding my truck..... no we didn't.... then why are the exhaust manifolds at 200 degrees when it just been sitting in the garage. Reason I noticed, it was an inch off of where I would park it. Popped the hood and hit it with the IR gun..... yea ok sure you didn't.
 
I know he is your step son and that makes it more difficult, but kids need structure and they need to learn respect. Sit him and his mother down and let it fly. It may not do a damn bit of good but you will feel better. Don't let it eat you up. Let it out before it gets worse. Stealing your truck is still stealing. Call the cops and scare him straight. He's 18 and legally responsible for his actions. If he wants to be a man, he has to act like one.
 
rlmccarty2000 said:
I know he is your step son and that makes it more difficult, but kids need structure and they need to learn respect. Sit him and his mother down and let it fly. It may not do a damn bit of good but you will feel better. Don't let it eat you up. Let it out before it gets worse. Stealing your truck is still stealing. Call the cops and scare him straight. He's 18 and legally responsible for his actions. If he wants to be a man, he has to act like one.
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The truck incident was years ago, and yes he did get in trouble with his mom. He overall is not a horrible kid, just a lack of respect and boundries. I guess I need to be a better example and lay down some more rules. Much of it is probably my fault in my deficiency of parenting skills. Being a step parent can suck at times, I am the exact opposite of my step father.
 
chet31 said:
I feel your pain, this is how my wife treats her car. But she still wants me to keep it up. I do a few passes of M205 per year, shine it up, and then let her swirl it up the rest of the year.
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Ha, must be in the name. My wife does the same
 
My prayer is that:

May God help both your wife and yourself,
to continue the honoring of the sacredness
of your marriage covenant to each other...
As well as in the solution of this particular
blended-family situation.


Bob
 
First mistake: never buy a kid a car, no less a BMW. Make them save and buy their own car.

Second mistake: never detail someone's car for them unless they are paying you.

My advice: Beat him with a sneaker. It won't leave marks. As what my mom used to do.


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swanicyouth said:
First mistake: never buy a kid a car, no less a BMW. Make them save and buy their own car.

Second mistake: never detail someone's car for them unless they are paying you.

My advice: Beat him with a sneaker. It won't leave marks. As what my mom used to do.


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I did not buy him the car, they just came home with it, nothing I can do there. But I fully agree with not buying him a car period, should have been earned, and less than what he got. Car is a nightmare with 100000 miles on it its going to be expensive with repairs.

Detailing is just a hobby for me, I don't make any money from it. It was good practice working out all of those swirls. Him not making any attempt to take care of it, thats on him and I'm not correcting it again. He can pay someone else to do it.
 
Nor Cal ZL1 said:
I did not buy him the car, they just came home with it, nothing I can do there. But I fully agree with not buying him a car period, should have been earned, and less than what he got. Car is a nightmare with 100000 miles on it its going to be expensive with repairs.

Detailing is just a hobby for me, I don't make any money from it. It was good practice working out all of those swirls. Him not making any attempt to take care of it, thats on him and I'm not correcting it again. He can pay someone else to do it.
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Does he do some of his own car work? Brakes,oil changes, the simple stuff. He should learn or pay for it.
Maybe he needs to learn to take the hit in his own pocket book.
Let him suffer with his own BMW repairs. He could have a really nice car starting with paint.
That step-dad thing can be rough when mom wants to spoon feed him
 
Nor Cal ZL1 said:
My wife bought him a used 335i

I'm about ready to make the garage off
limits by locking it from both sides and
disabling the garage door.

Of course the wife would get pissed off.
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:Picture: of Wife...


Bob
 
Let me apologize in advance as what I may say come off wrong! There is no way in hell I would put up with this as you have. He has no respect for your property! I understand the step dad side of it all, but there are limits. If you can't trust the people he hangs with in your garage do you trust them in your home? He might me a decent young guy but his so called friends who take things, no good in my book. He should have the respect for you as one who puts a roof over his head and food on the table. There is no way I would do this to my Step Dad, or allow it. Everything should be off limits, have a talk with him and your wife, make up your mind on how you feel and say it. No more "friends over" no more using your stuff. Honestly wait until the friends are there confront them all, the look on there faces will tell the story! Trust me the ones who are behind the missing items will not come around. If the wife has a problem with it, that can be a war all on it own. I know a guy who has a 28yo step son, and the son has a good job, but a few times in the last couple years the step sons car got repoed and there was Mom catching things up. If you don't set the record straight, your going to pay for a long time! Best of luck to ya.
 
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