Sad Saturday…

Look I’m not against kids but glad I didn’t have one with the wrong women. 90% of people know who have kids are not with the other parent.

I would want to have the “family life” if I did. But most of my friends who are in a “happy family”. Both parents aren’t truly happy.

But neither are a lot of single people….

If I had a child I’d be there %100 for them. Raise them as I see right. Give up my cars if needed. But that wouldn’t change who I am or make happier, more complete. just happier and complete in a different way.


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Ric:

Advice from a New Yorker:

FU(K that Jerk-off.



That's it............ :cool:
 
DFB said:
I understand people wanting a family and children, if it makes those people happy, then so be it. Just don't belittle me or dimmish my value in life because I made a different decision.

Although no one would actually say it, but there are times when I can tell people are jealous or resentful that I have the freedom to do what I want, when I want to. I work, then I go and do what makes me happy.
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I can see where you are coming from with others being jealous with the freedom and you do what you want when you want plus being 35 year's old and having 5 car's and a nice house that's pretty sweet deal.
 
opie said:
Please dont misunderstand good sir, he says it jokingly and laughs, but i know he does miss the freedom a bit. But they planned it and knew the sacrifices that'll be made. He is a family guy at his core as both are always doing something with thier familys

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Thanks for posting this and being clear. Without this it would've sucked knowing some kid somewhere isn't getting 100%, we know they are out there

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dlc95 said:
I told Cheri that I feel like I've been "dead" since I lost my car wash in 2014. Part of me died with the money I lost and the failure I became. I was always an extreme failure in life, a loser, but that was my shot out - or so I thought.

It was really bad in 2015, 2018, and this time last year was probably closest I came to a self induced exit.

I've been that way to a degree since high school.

It's really sticky. Like molasses and quicksand.
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Damn man that's heavy and I'm glad you put this out there because it dies help as I did therapy for a while after my ex walked out on me Nov 25th 2019, so I COMPLETELY understand the time of the year thing!!

I'm serious when I say this and I speak for many when I say YOU ARE NOT A LOSER️️

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I literally can't comprehend how people with kids get through a week. Being single makes a lot of things more manageable. I've had 10 to 1 the amount of people who tell me that I don't realize how smart I am to be single.
 
DUBL0WS6 said:
I literally can't comprehend how people with kids get through a week. Being single makes a lot of things more manageable. I've had 10 to 1 the amount of people who tell me that I don't realize how smart I am to be single.
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People with bad relationships always tell you that.


I met my wife in 1996, and we were married in 2000. She is my best friend in the world, and I am hers.

We have been through thick and thin, but have always had each other to fall back on.

We never had any children, but I'm sure we would have weathered that just fine if we had.


I think people get married too young, too quickly, or both and then find out they are not compatible.

We lived together from 1996-2000. On our wedding day, she was 28, and I was 30.

I think that time living together was crucial in not making the wrong choice. (For both of us.)
 
You shouldn't give up on your friend so easy. Send him a text everyday until he says yes
 
Flash Gordon said:
You shouldn't give up on your friend so easy. Send him a text everyday until he says yes
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That would show weakness, and an unhealthy dependence on a non-existent friendship.

People change. My advice to Ric stands, and I did not give it without careful consideration.
 
DUBL0WS6 said:
I literally can't comprehend how people with kids get through a week. Being single makes a lot of things more manageable. I've had 10 to 1 the amount of people who tell me that I don't realize how smart I am to be single.
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Humans adapt to almost anything thrown our way. My wife and I lived together before getting married and waited 2 years to have kids after getting married. I think living with my wife before marriage and kids helped tremendously. Marriage isn't easy, but you develop a partner in crime that helps make things manageable.

I couldn't imaging my life without my boys, my wife sometimes depending on her mood lol, but definitely not my boys. Yes kids are tiring and drain all of the money out of your pockets, but the memories you create with them is worth more than anything money can buy.

@Eldorado2k focus on the people that want to be a part of your life instead of focusing on the one person that doesn't. The friend could have been busy or be going through something behind closed doors, but his delivery could have been much better. The moment you focus on the positive aspects of your life, you will become a much happier person. I don't live in Cali, but I'm down to facetime the game with ya. You can just put the phone on the seat next to ya and it'll be like I'm really there. Don't let this get you down!

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PaulMys said:
People with bad relationships always tell you that.


I met my wife in 1996, and we were married in 2000. She is my best friend in the world, and I am hers.

We have been through thick and thin, but have always had each other to fall back on.

We never had any children, but I'm sure we would have weathered that just fine if we had.


I think people get married too young, too quickly, or both and then find out they are not compatible.

We lived together from 1996-2000. On our wedding day, she was 28, and I was 30.

I think that time living together was crucial in not making the wrong choice. (For both of us.)
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There is a lot of peer pressure among young women to get married, or to be seen to be getting married. And a lot of that is for simply to show off; the engagement party, the hen's night, the elaborate wedding ect.

My 33-year-old sister refuses to get married, a sentiment echoed by her long-term partner. She has watched as her peers have gone down the big wedding track enough times to not see the point.
 
PaulMys said:
That would show weakness, and an unhealthy dependence on a non-existent friendship.

People change. My advice to Ric stands, and I did not give it without careful consideration.
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I was under the assumption that they were really tight at one time.
I also assume this person has some sort of mental illness if they're still living in moms basement when they are in their 30's.
Your probably right tho. This person is probably a real loser. Definitely not work investing time into, much less $100 for a basketball game ticket. Probably should tape that ticket to a brick and write FU on it then go throw through their window. For sure don't want to show weakness.
Thanks for helping me see the light...
 
Klasse Act said:
Damn man that's heavy and I'm glad you put this out there because it dies help as I did therapy for a while after my ex walked out on me Nov 25th 2019, so I COMPLETELY understand the time of the year thing!!

I'm serious when I say this and I speak for many when I say YOU ARE NOT A LOSER️️

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I know you were MIA for awhile around that time. Glad you made it back to the forum and good to see you opening up about it…. But to be clear….. you are a loser

I kid you are a big part of this community and a good person to vent to.

And agreed absolutely not a loser. Big difference between someone who takes some losses…. Even big ones and a loser.

Loser woulda never took those chances to take those loses.


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PaulMys said:
That would show weakness, and an unhealthy dependence on a non-existent friendship.

People change. My advice to Ric stands, and I did not give it without careful consideration.
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Yeah but I kinda agree with Flash. To have such a reply he might just be going through it. Not wanting to do stuff is a sign of depression.

Way Eldo told it doesn’t seem like he got a stable job. Being old friends and if he’s as big of a Basketball/Clippers fan as Eldo I think he might being going through it.

Flash isn’t saying do it for Eldo’s benefit but more to check on his friend.


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Besides the guys down under on here, I see I'm not the only one up in the middle of the night....:xyxthumbs:
 
Klasse Act said:
Damn man that's heavy and I'm glad you put this out there because it dies help as I did therapy for a while after my ex walked out on me Nov 25th 2019, so I COMPLETELY understand the time of the year thing!!

I'm serious when I say this and I speak for many when I say YOU ARE NOT A LOSER️️

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Oh man, thanks!

That's probably where my spiral started. My high school sweetheart leaving me in Dec of 97. I was madly in love with her. She was one of those "diamond in the rough". We started dating my senior year (94/95), and guys would ask me where I found her. I said right here under my nose!

It was Thanksgiving that year where I noticed things going south. She skipped dinner with my extended family. Mu grandma asked if she was seeing someone else. I thought that was the most preposterous though that could uave entered anyone's head. Turns out she was 100% correct.

When I went back to her mom's to get my things I noticed two losses photos that fell out of the photo album. They were of her and the guy she left me for a year earlier. The were in drama club together and while everyone was loose with physical contact that embrace and the smiles on their faces told me all I needed to know.

A decade later my fiance did the same, except she started shagging a guy from work. She tried to come back a few times, but by then I was so jaded!

The first ex got divorced at the same time my fiance left. We talked and sorted thing out. It was nice because she held herself accountable too. I had been shouldering 100% of the blame.

I'm getting more resilient lately though. I mean, I'm really tough, but I take things really deep, really to heart. Losting that car wash killed. I know why people take their lives in business when they lose everything. But I'm here. I'm ready to go again. I've been designing new, innovative car wash equipment, and wash media's. Probably a half year out from fleshing out some prototypes.

I wod be remiss if I didn't mention the music of Talk Show and Queen for getting me through that first one. Dave, the singer for TS kept me inspired. I was looking forward to a second album from them, but they ditched him and went back to Stone Temple Pilots. But I'm playing drums on all but two of his recent recordings.

Thanks again, Klasee!
 
Coatingsarecrack said:
Yeah but I kinda agree with Flash. To have such a reply he might just be going through it. Not wanting to do stuff is a sign of depression.

Way Eldo told it doesn’t seem like he got a stable job. Being old friends and if he’s as big of a Basketball/Clippers fan as Eldo I think he might being going through it.

Flash isn’t saying do it for Eldo’s benefit but more to check on his friend.


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See post #42............... ;)
 
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