Paradog--Sounds like you are a little stressed with a lack of time. I hope it was just a bad day, and something on the forum was your last straw. I can see your frustration of there always being something new to buy, its tough trying to keep up with the jones. But this forum does cost money to run and AG is trying to run a company. I for one, sometimes forget that fact.
I can tell you that I am probably the poorest member on this site as I am over 100k in debt. My vehicle stays outside 24/7 and with the ever changing weather up here, I am lucky to get a wash in without it raining, snowing, sleeting etc. I dont have a pot to pee-pee in or a window to throw it out of, but am glad there are forums to help show the proper tools, techniques, etc of how to detail for the pro and hobbyist. I see the seperation of members here as this.
1) Professional. Might be a hobbyist that turned pro, but makes their lively hood detailing, or selling product.
2) Hobbyist. Person who knows better then to use a bath towel, and spends free time detailing own vehicle. can sometimes be convinced to do the GF/Wife/IN-Laws/ etc for a few beers and seom food.
3) Newbie. Those members that still think bath towels work best for drying and have never heard of sealant, polish, AIO, etc.
I am a newbie hobbyist, more leaning on the newbie side. Just my .02 as I have gone on way too long. I hope you can find what I have found here, in that there is good information tucked into almost every post. Just have to weed out the info you don't need.