I could really use my Dad right now.
- Thread starter Don M
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Azure
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- May 23, 2013
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Hopefully you can get the strength to stick it out until you can retire at your original desired time so you don't lose the $1200 per month. I used to struggle with sleep terribly due to bad hip arthritis. I ended up walking daily and changed my diet enough to lose weight. The weight didn't help completely with the hip pain, so I ended up getting both hips replaced. One thing I did notice with the daily walks and weight lose, even before the hip replacements, was that my overall arthritis pain was reduced and my sleep improved. Now with the new hips and including some light weight training, my sleep and fitness is so much better. It was really worth the early few months of struggle with pain to get my body in better shape. I used to call the TV adds about "staying active" improving arthrits pain BS, but I have to say it was real for me. If your body will let you, maybe walking daily can get the ball rolling for you to feel better and sleep better. Whatever you choose to do, I really hope it works out for you, man! :dblthumb2::cheers:
bbmach
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Hi Don:
For what it is worth, many folks have been through something similar, as you’ve read here. That by itself doesn’t help, but sometimes knowing you aren’t alone does.
The old saying of “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time” applies here as well. You are overwhelmed, and it’s OK. Just take things one-step at a time.
• Breathe. Nothing has to be settled this very moment. Give things a minute to work out, and for you to decompress a bit.
• Listen to your Dr and your wife. They are trying to help.
• Google is your friend. The answers are out there.
• As mentioned, sit down with your wife and learn everything you can about your retirement plan, how it fits where you are now, and ask questions and challenge answers that don’t seem to add up. It’s your money and they act like it and can make mistakes. Happens every single day. Trust your instincts.
• Talk to the trusted shop you brought your Camaro to. Explain you can’t do it all at once and make a plan to take care of the most important items first.
• Compliment your wife and pick up a small and inexpensive bouquet of flowers at the supermarket. Find reasons to smile, and if you have to force it, still do it. It makes a difference.
I lost my Dad a year and few months ago, and I think of him every day. He is the reason I am into cars (don’t think I had a choice, actually) and every time I do something, I wish he could see. But I believe he knows, as I bet your Dad does as well. It is still up to us to make ‘em proud, and we can do it, one thing at a time.
Adulting sux sometimes. Hang in there.
Dave
For what it is worth, many folks have been through something similar, as you’ve read here. That by itself doesn’t help, but sometimes knowing you aren’t alone does.
The old saying of “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time” applies here as well. You are overwhelmed, and it’s OK. Just take things one-step at a time.
• Breathe. Nothing has to be settled this very moment. Give things a minute to work out, and for you to decompress a bit.
• Listen to your Dr and your wife. They are trying to help.
• Google is your friend. The answers are out there.
• As mentioned, sit down with your wife and learn everything you can about your retirement plan, how it fits where you are now, and ask questions and challenge answers that don’t seem to add up. It’s your money and they act like it and can make mistakes. Happens every single day. Trust your instincts.
• Talk to the trusted shop you brought your Camaro to. Explain you can’t do it all at once and make a plan to take care of the most important items first.
• Compliment your wife and pick up a small and inexpensive bouquet of flowers at the supermarket. Find reasons to smile, and if you have to force it, still do it. It makes a difference.
I lost my Dad a year and few months ago, and I think of him every day. He is the reason I am into cars (don’t think I had a choice, actually) and every time I do something, I wish he could see. But I believe he knows, as I bet your Dad does as well. It is still up to us to make ‘em proud, and we can do it, one thing at a time.
Adulting sux sometimes. Hang in there.
Dave
Coatingsarecrack
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- Dec 9, 2018
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Don lost my pops in 2010 and always could use his advice. Just know that he’s still in your corner.
I know these next 5 months will suck but know that 5 months after those 5 months you will be thinking how life is better.
Here’s we’re I’m suppose to tell you to tough it out and suck it up it will be over soon.
But in actuality here is we’re I’ll tell you you gotta take care of yourself if you are to take care of your family.
If 5 months of self care is more important than the money I’d say do it.
I will also say that although I know what others say/do can have an effect on one’s health in all reality it doesn’t really matter it is their self loathing they are projecting into the world
On 5 months they will be nothing but the past.
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I know these next 5 months will suck but know that 5 months after those 5 months you will be thinking how life is better.
Here’s we’re I’m suppose to tell you to tough it out and suck it up it will be over soon.
But in actuality here is we’re I’ll tell you you gotta take care of yourself if you are to take care of your family.
If 5 months of self care is more important than the money I’d say do it.
I will also say that although I know what others say/do can have an effect on one’s health in all reality it doesn’t really matter it is their self loathing they are projecting into the world
On 5 months they will be nothing but the past.
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