Well an update now that I finally have news to report back ...
After 4 visits to the dealer, and two months I finally have it fixed. The first visit the tech 'could not hear the noise I was describing' which upon hearing that when I picked up my car I insisted the manager go on a test drive with me and he was pretty upset his tech missed something that obvious.
Second service appointment - they ran out of time and didn't get around to it.
Third service appointment - they confirmed the noise and their best guess was the turbo, which I have been telling them for 2 months now. I ask them to put together a written quote, then call another shop and they offer a 10% discount, call up the dealer and ask them if they want to match the price, they do, so setup appointment #4.
Today - the dealer let me know they scheduled several fewer service appointments than usual, since this is a 5 hour tear down to get at the turbo so I dropped it off and hit the shuttle (all of the drivers I know pretty well by now). They finished up right at 5pm when I was back to pick up the car, and although I was gentle on the way home, everything is fixed. The clatter during warm up, and the whistling under acceleration over 3k RPM gone ... and I sure have a heck of a lot more power than I did right before the service. The power must have been going down pretty slowly because I had never noticed a huge change.
I requested the old parts back so I can tear it down and see what actually happened, and perhaps see if there is any residual value that I can get out of it. For now here is the old turbo that got pulled, I will post pictures of the tear down when I have time to pull it apart.