Need Some Advice on Partners and Their Jewelry and Stuff

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I may get my head handed to me but here goes

Has anyone ever found a subtle, gentle, non-confrontational way to talk to their significant other about the damage that fingernails and jewelry do to cars?

Every time my wife gets in to either vehicle it's a symphony of rings, fingernails, watches, and other stuff dragging on the arm rest, the pull handles, the console when she clicks the seatbelt, etc

I just wince every time she does it and have done it obviously enough at times that she KNOWS why I am doing it and she says "sorry" but her habits don't change

I have had her come around when I am polishing and I will take the opportunity to grab an applicator and go after the door handle recesses and I mumble something about fingernails vs paint but it seems to go over her head

I will be married 44 years next month and no amount of scratches or interior dings is worth a fight but there has GOT to be someone out there that has solved this dilemma

Fanks...
 
If you don't want to approach the situation what about some clear ppf for the door handle area??
 
Just bite the bullet Mikey, or you might not have anything to polish/clean.:D
 
Hmm I'm a watch guy and I do have rings but never had a situation where they endangered the surfaces of my cars.I dont even think about it. I guess I'm just naturally super careful

As for your wife, I'd just compliment her on her jewelry but then just gently ask her to be super careful with it around the car. If you take a gentle approach I doubt she would get offended.
 
Rsurfer said:
Just bite the bullet Mikey, or you might not have anything to polish/clean.:D
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OK Ron, but if you hear me screaming and crying you gotta promise to hop on Mokulele and come rescue me...
 
Bill D said:
Hmm I'm a watch guy and I do have rings but never had a situation where they endangered the surfaces of my cars.I dont even think about it. I guess I'm just naturally super careful

As for your wife, I'd just compliment her on her jewelry but then just gently ask her to be super careful with it around the car. If you take a gentle approach I doubt she would get offended.
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You are probably right, a direct but gentle discussion

I am sure I have annoying quirks as well
 
After 44 years....give up or the BIG D haha. (divorce)

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chilly said:
You are probably right, a direct but gentle discussion

I am sure I have annoying quirks as well
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Yeah, I'd just lead with the truth of the situation and say "It kills me to bring this up, but..." That way it's not you demanding she stop, it's more helping her see what an effect it has for you and how you like to keep things.
 
Rsurfer said:
Good idea Pauly, but will she go for it!!
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Hmmmmmmm...

Car gloves you say...

In Hawaii...

Well it is officially winter and it did get down to 64 last night so maybe...

:confused:
 
Mercedes sells paint protection film specifically cut for all the door handle cups, it is about the only protection option that I would ever buy on a car. They are available on eBay ,Amazon etc.… Or cut them yourself using 3m PPF……
 
I have PPF on my door cups as well as on the top of my back bumper
 
My daughter has #### hanging all off her purse and I get onto her about getting that damn thing anywhere near the paint. I’m thinking full door (car) PPF is warranted. Maybe some additional PPF on the console. :)
 
dgage said:
I think he’s about close to having the discussion but it takes a while. :)
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EXACTLY!!!

I am just getting warmed up to have "the talk"

It takes a while

44th anniversary coming up, I'd say Il'l probably be ready about 3 months after my 50th anniversary
 
Been down that road and it led me to blowing my top one day. I felt really bad and since then I don’t bring it up and she has gotten better. I’ve been married for 22 years, we hardly ever fight and never called each other names, at the end of the day she’s more important to me.

Actually I’m sure she loves the jewelry, nice nails etc just as much as you like your stuff treated like gold, put yourself in her shoes
 
vobro said:
Been down that road and it led me to blowing my top one day. I felt really bad and since then I don’t bring it up and she has gotten better. I’ve been married for 22 years, we hardly ever fight and never called each other names, at the end of the day she’s more important to me.

Actually I’m sure she loves the jewelry, nice nails etc just as much as you like your stuff treated like gold, put yourself in her shoes
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Truer words were never spoken

I thank you
 
LostInTransit said:
@Chilly there's been a stain of sun screen on the Connect's passenger side door since last summer. See me worried about it?. nor should you. If you wanted a collector car, then don't drive it or let anyone near it.
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In some sense thats true but trying to keep what I have as nice as I can is pretty realistic in my mind

When I go to the store I park in the furthest back parking area and walk a ways so I cut my chances of some uncaring person slamming their door into mine

Stuff like that

I am letting this go because it has been pointed out that my wife's feelings are every bit as important as mine and rightfully so

Nothing is worth a major blowup, although this would never come to that or we wouldn't have been married for 44 years

I appreciate your input
 
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