One year ago, today.

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Don M

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[FONT=&quot]One year ago today, my dad went home and I was left as the oldest living male in my family. Not something that I ever looked forward to, or even thought about at all. It just kind of hit me after dad passed.

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[FONT=&quot]I would more than gladly give this "Title" back to him, if I could only have him back as he was - before the Parkinson's worked it's evil on him.

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[FONT=&quot]God knows I really needed him - his experience and advice, especially these last several months, I really could have used my Dad. But my heart tells me he is now healthy and healed, free from the disease that controlled his life and that he is with HIS father and happy - free from any torment and I wouldn't want him pulled away from that for anything in the world.So instead of wishing for my dad, I will just trust that God has things well in hand and I will be shown the path when it's time.[/FONT]
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I love and miss you dad, until we meet again.[/FONT]
 
It gets easier with time, Don. But it will always be there.


My father passed away 23 years ago back on July 20th.

Not one day goes by that I don't think of him......
 
Sorry for your loss. It does indeed get easier. As long as they live in your heart, they are never truly gone. My father in law, who treated me like a son, passed way almost 11 years now. Every time I'm at his house, I still expect him to emerge from his pole barn, covered in sawdust from his latest project.
 
Sounds like you had a great relationship. Hold tight to the memories
 
Yeah got the right mentality. Lost my pops in 2010. His birthday was today the 6th. I miss him but like you know he’s in a better place.

They are with those they love both on the other side and those left behind to remember.


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Miss both my parents also. And my dad was really my best friend. It does get easier with time. But you never really forget.
 
I don't know if this will help but I saw a video of a guy who had a near death experience. He said that as he floated above the hospital he could see every one in the hospital. And they were all connected with a tether. Interesting thought. So even after death that connection may exist even though two people might not be able to physically communicate.
 
Your dad is your biggest cheerleader! After mine passed, big successes & accomplishments my wife and I achieved were kinda subdued, not being able to pickup the phone and tell him the news.
It took me about two years to stop grabbing the phone.
I do know he’s smiling big time from heaven!
 
DUBL0WS6 said:
I don't know if this will help but I saw a video of a guy who had a near death experience. He said that as he floated above the hospital he could see every one in the hospital. And they were all connected with a tether. Interesting thought. So even after death that connection may exist even though two people might not be able to physically communicate.
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On this note: My youngest brother (the one I'm replacing the headlights on his truck) had made the comment when dad passed - it was my mom, me and him in the hospital room - that he wished his faith was strong enough to believe that he would see dad again.

A few months ago, he and my mom got new cell phones. So he took his old phone and wanted to make sure everything was erased from it, and he came across a voicemail from DAD, wanting to tell my brother that he was OK and everything was good. He didn't say WHEN this message was left, but he believes it was from a while ago. In the later years, we never left dad alone. He was too unpredictable in both his disease and the things he would get into. He would often 'freeze up' and fall or get stuck somewhere he shouldn't be and would be helpless if no one was there to help him.

In the beginning, once in a very great while, they did leave dad on his own for very short periods of time, and my brother kind of believes the message was from one of those times, and dad was just letting him know that he was OK and hadn't gotten himself into trouble. The thing that "vexed" (for lack of a better word) my brother was that he did not typically save his messages once he heard them and for this one to still be there and show up when it did, kind of flipped him.

My brother asked us if we thought it was a sign, and my mom and I both agree that we think it was, especially since it was my brother, the one that doubted the strength of his faith, who found the message, as a way to give him hope.

My dad taught me to never TOTALLY disbelieve anything, so I do believe that the voice mail my brother found, WAS a sign from dad that he is OK and is well.
 
it's very difficult to lose a parent and you have my sympathy. May the Lord bless you as you morn your loss.
 
Don M said:
On this note: My youngest brother (the one I'm replacing the headlights on his truck) had made the comment when dad passed - it was my mom, me and him in the hospital room - that he wished his faith was strong enough to believe that he would see dad again.

A few months ago, he and my mom got new cell phones. So he took his old phone and wanted to make sure everything was erased from it, and he came across a voicemail from DAD, wanting to tell my brother that he was OK and everything was good. He didn't say WHEN this message was left, but he believes it was from a while ago. In the later years, we never left dad alone. He was too unpredictable in both his disease and the things he would get into. He would often 'freeze up' and fall or get stuck somewhere he shouldn't be and would be helpless if no one was there to help him.

In the beginning, once in a very great while, they did leave dad on his own for very short periods of time, and my brother kind of believes the message was from one of those times, and dad was just letting him know that he was OK and hadn't gotten himself into trouble. The thing that "vexed" (for lack of a better word) my brother was that he did not typically save his messages once he heard them and for this one to still be there and show up when it did, kind of flipped him.

My brother asked us if we thought it was a sign, and my mom and I both agree that we think it was, especially since it was my brother, the one that doubted the strength of his faith, who found the message, as a way to give him hope.

My dad taught me to never TOTALLY disbelieve anything, so I do believe that the voice mail my brother found, WAS a sign from dad that he is OK and is well.
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That was a GREAT read Don. And I believe it to be true as well.

My Father passed one year before my wedding. He was always a Bob Seger fan. He had ALL of the LP's back in the '70's.

We hired a DJ for the reception, and after our wedding song, everyone was dancing for a good while. I gave him a playlist, and also told him to play some "fun" songs. (I'm not a fan of those, so I left it to him. Lol).

After about 90 minutes, the dance floor had pretty much cleared out as people were sitting down to chat with each other, getting some more food, or just resting from dancing.

Right THEN...... "Turn the Page" by Bob Seger started playing. I immediately walked over to the DJ, and asked him "Did someone request this song??"

He said: "No. I just got back from the bathroom, and I have no idea how or why that song started playing........"

The hair on the back of my neck stood up.
 
DUBL0WS6 said:
I don't know if this will help but I saw a video of a guy who had a near death experience. He said that as he floated above the hospital he could see every one in the hospital. And they were all connected with a tether. Interesting thought. So even after death that connection may exist even though two people might not be able to physically communicate.
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Don M said:
On this note: My youngest brother (the one I'm replacing the headlights on his truck) had made the comment when dad passed - it was my mom, me and him in the hospital room - that he wished his faith was strong enough to believe that he would see dad again.

A few months ago, he and my mom got new cell phones. So he took his old phone and wanted to make sure everything was erased from it, and he came across a voicemail from DAD, wanting to tell my brother that he was OK and everything was good. He didn't say WHEN this message was left, but he believes it was from a while ago. In the later years, we never left dad alone. He was too unpredictable in both his disease and the things he would get into. He would often 'freeze up' and fall or get stuck somewhere he shouldn't be and would be helpless if no one was there to help him.

In the beginning, once in a very great while, they did leave dad on his own for very short periods of time, and my brother kind of believes the message was from one of those times, and dad was just letting him know that he was OK and hadn't gotten himself into trouble. The thing that "vexed" (for lack of a better word) my brother was that he did not typically save his messages once he heard them and for this one to still be there and show up when it did, kind of flipped him.

My brother asked us if we thought it was a sign, and my mom and I both agree that we think it was, especially since it was my brother, the one that doubted the strength of his faith, who found the message, as a way to give him hope.

My dad taught me to never TOTALLY disbelieve anything, so I do believe that the voice mail my brother found, WAS a sign from dad that he is OK and is well.
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PaulMys said:
That was a GREAT read Don. And I believe it to be true as well.

My Father passed one year before my wedding. He was always a Bob Seger fan. He had ALL of the LP's back in the '70's.

We hired a DJ for the reception, and after our wedding song, everyone was dancing for a good while. I gave him a playlist, and also told him to play some "fun" songs. (I'm not a fan of those, so I left it to him. Lol).

After about 90 minutes, the dance floor had pretty much cleared out as people were sitting down to chat with each other, getting some more food, or just resting from dancing.

Right THEN...... "Turn the Page" by Bob Seger started playing. I immediately walked over to the DJ, and asked him "Did someone request this song??"

He said: "No. I just got back from the bathroom, and I have no idea how or why that song started playing........"

The hair on the back of my neck stood up.
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My mother died 3 days after my 8th birthday. Soon after and on several occasions I had the exact same dream. She would appear while I was laying in bed. She would gently rub my forehead, smile and tell me how much she loved me. She promised to ALWAYS be there for me.

I've gotten myself into situations many times over the years that I shouldn't have made it out of. Every time this childhood memory would immediately come to mind. I haven't thought about this in years, so thank you for the reminder.
Mom, if your reading this I love you
 
God works in mysterious ways .....
 
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