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As we get older I know everyone can relate to friends growing apart and people not hanging out like we once did because life gets in the way. There’s people who actually ##### about things like that, right?

So I decided to try and plan a fun memorable night out with what I consider 1 of my best friends since childhood, we haven’t hung out in a while, and keep in mind this guy played high school basketball so it’s not like it’s something he has no interest in… And this is the response I get.

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Oh btw he didn’t know, but I already bought the tickets. Damn good seats too! Ahh man this bummed me out just now. Just had to vent that out.

Cold world we live in.
 
Sorry to hear. The older you get the more regret you'll have looking back at missed opportunities.

I'm going to be in SoCal for a couple of weeks next month if you'd like to meet up. Maybe go to a car show or practice wet sanding on the rental car if you'd like.
 
Flash Gordon said:
Sorry to hear. The older you get the more regret you'll have looking back at missed opportunities.

I'm going to be in SoCal for a couple of weeks next month if you'd like to meet up. Maybe go to a car show or practice wet sanding on the rental car if you'd like.
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If the time is right yea, we’ll see what’s up.
 
Eldorado2k said:
As we get older I know everyone can relate to friends growing apart and people not hanging out like we once did because life gets in the way. There’s people who actually ##### about things like that, right?

So I decided to try and plan a fun memorable night out with what I consider 1 of my best friends since childhood, we haven’t hung out in a while, and keep in mind this guy played high school basketball so it’s not like it’s something he has no interest in… And this is the response I get.

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Oh btw he didn’t know, but I already bought the tickets. Damn good seats too! Ahh man this bummed me out just now. Just had to vent that out.

Cold world we live in.
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Nah I get it. Maybe he’s got stuff going on in his life that’s got him down. Maybe he had to work.

Still friends since childhood I would give a better response. You only get so many good friends and that was dope of you to do.

It’s funny… I had the opposite happen. Guy I got pay in a fantasy league with some friends in AK that I know and that he knows. We’ve never met but communicate through a group chat.

Calls me up Saturday and had a friend who cancelled so he called to offer me his SeaHawks ticket to a box suite. He had other guys already in his group and coulda invited another friend or even some other guys from the group. He just thought we should meet and calls me 1st.

Black Friday weekend and I work retail so I couldn’t take off but I was wowed by jesture.

So if he ain’t got time for you it’s all good. You seem like a solid dude and there’s plenty of people out there who want to enjoy life…..


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Sorry to read that, I know how that feels.

I drifted apart from my friend group at high school. I got busy prioritizing work in the years after school, and I was not into parties and staying up to all hours drinking. So, we gradually just lost touch.

A couple of years ago, somehow, I reacted to a Facebook post from my closest buddy, who had since left town and had been working and living in the capital city. We had a bit of a chat via messenger and agreed to catch up over lunch when he was home for the weekend. I was pumped, we both got along so well, laughed a lot, he somehow brought me out of my shy self during the last two years of school.

Well, the morning of said lunch get together, he sent me a message saying that he was going home early and wouldn't be able to make it. I played it cool, said I understood, but it certainly hurt. Have not heard from him since.

I have always been of the opinion that friendships work both ways, it can't be a single sided effort to maintain one. This is one of the reasons why I love dogs, they just love you with all of their heart, never judge, always there for you when you are down.





 
I certainly know the feeling of being let down by “friends”. As we get older it’s more and more difficult to make them

But just imagine if you had *no* friends to attempt to reach out to. Let’s just say I can tell you a few stories about that.
 
Bill D said:
I certainly know the feeling of being let down by “friends”. As we get older it’s more and more difficult to make them

But just imagine if you had *no* friends to attempt to reach out to. Let’s just say I can tell you a few stories about that.
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I definitely know that feeling. A little over 30 years ago, I was completely BETRAYED by my group of "friends" who had secretly sided with my ex-wife, who kicked me out after she decided that she wanted to be with one of them, instead of me. Turns out they were a pipeline straight to her reporting on everything I said and was going through, and probably having many good laughs at my expense.

Over the years since then, I have made a few 'acquaintances,' but none of them lasted very long and never developed into what you could call a "friendship." So now, while I have a few people that I consider friends, they are all scattered over the internet and none of them are really close enough (geographically) to get together with any kind of frequency to develop a close friendship.

I'm hoping that by joining the local Camaro Club, I will finally be able to find a person or two that I can hang out with (especially now since I'm retiring) and talk Camaros, detailing, or just unload about what's bothering me, so I don't have totally lean on (and stress out my wife).

But the wounds from long ago were deep and the scars are tough, I just hope that I'm still able to develop close friends.
 
Times are always changing but you've gotta try and pivot. I can only speak for myself but some of the people here I consider friends, different kind of friends but friends. I can assure you that if I ever meet anyone of you I'll be the same guy you imagined I'd be (probably end up talking too much)

This is why I wished I could've went to Detail Fest or better yet a regional Detail Fest and put a face with a name, talk detailing and cars and get some dinner. I mean we've set up a couple "meets" over the yrs but it was a working meet, which is fine but I'm pretty chatty AND I like working, not always easy.

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Eldorado2k said:
Oh btw he didn’t know, but I already bought the tickets.
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Quite the gesture, but i do have to say that his scheduale just might not have worked to be a able to attend. Your "friend" should have handled that differently, it was quite cold and no sign of disapointment of having to turn it down or graditiude for the thought behind it. Or even the eagarness to try and meet up in some way in the future.(selfish)

Btw your txt ya sent him had an idication that said tickets were already purchased. Im not the brightest but i caught that.

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Yea. I have been through it. You get older, people and friends grow apart for whatever reasons.
 
DFB said:
I have always been of the opinion that friendships work both ways, it can't be a single sided effort to maintain one.
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Man this is such a true statement! You find out who your real friends are with that quote. I bet i could only count on one hand of the actual friends i have...that i could call if i needed a hand in some way that would come help if they were not already committed to something else in some way, and not expect something in return.

Your quote also rings true for family too. For me.. my brothers are this to a T! They will whine that we dont get ahold of them and ask if i even care to have a part in there young kids lives...so i told them the phone works both ways, so its status qoe..see ya at the holidays. I hate when they invite us to the kids birthday parties cuz tgere will be no relationship with the kids cuz their moms and dads are asss holes. They also never get ahold of us either. We used to hang out almost every weekend and had some of the same friends. But they were the ones that pulled away (from the friends too) when they both got together with their now wives. They are self centered, onesided, love drama, both have a gaggle of kids. We are the exact opposite of all those things, so we keep our distance and to ourselves. Drama with them goes deeper but this is not the place to be reading that book.

Im happier in life when we stick to just our true friends group and real people

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DFB said:
Sorry to read that, I know how that feels.

I drifted apart from my friend group at high school. I got busy prioritizing work in the years after school, and I was not into parties and staying up to all hours drinking. So, we gradually just lost touch.

A couple of years ago, somehow, I reacted to a Facebook post from my closest buddy, who had since left town and had been working and living in the capital city. We had a bit of a chat via messenger and agreed to catch up over lunch when he was home for the weekend. I was pumped, we both got along so well, laughed a lot, he somehow brought me out of my shy self during the last two years of school.

Well, the morning of said lunch get together, he sent me a message saying that he was going home early and wouldn't be able to make it. I played it cool, said I understood, but it certainly hurt. Have not heard from him since.

I have always been of the opinion that friendships work both ways, it can't be a single sided effort to maintain one. This is one of the reasons why I love dogs, they just love you with all of their heart, never judge, always there for you when you are down.





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:applause::applause::applause::applause:

My current situation is a cat on my lap (sharpening his claws on my leg) and a dog on each hip. Big ordeal just to go take a leak.
My pets hate my laptop. They see it as a major distraction (I think they're smarter than me as far as that goes)
 
Best way to find out who your friends are is to call from jail or request help moving a sofa sleeper upstairs
 
Coatingsarecrack said:
Nah I get it. Maybe he’s got stuff going on in his life that’s got him down. Maybe he had to work.

Still friends since childhood I would give a better response. You only get so many good friends and that was dope of you to do.

It’s funny… I had the opposite happen. Guy I got pay in a fantasy league with some friends in AK that I know and that he knows. We’ve never met but communicate through a group chat.

Calls me up Saturday and had a friend who cancelled so he called to offer me his SeaHawks ticket to a box suite. He had other guys already in his group and coulda invited another friend or even some other guys from the group. He just thought we should meet and calls me 1st.

Black Friday weekend and I work retail so I couldn’t take off but I was wowed by jesture.

So if he ain’t got time for you it’s all good. You seem like a solid dude and there’s plenty of people out there who want to enjoy life…..


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If you haven't responded back yet hit him with this:

"Man, that's a shame. I won these tickets on a radio contest that jergens lotion is sponsoring. Part of the deal (besides court side seats) is me (and whoever I bring) gets to rub lotion all over the bodies of the cheerleaders between breaks! I will try and send pics if my hands aren't too slippery.

Tallyho Mate!!"
 
Bill D said:
I certainly know the feeling of being let down by “friends”. As we get older it’s more and more difficult to make them

But just imagine if you had *no* friends to attempt to reach out to. Let’s just say I can tell you a few stories about that.
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Probably not the type of person that you would want as a friend but I'm here if you ever need to talk.

Lots of people in this position. Covid only made it worse
 
I'm that guy too.

My best bro since grade school knows this about me though, and always say "no big deal if you don't want to go". He usually has a big crew of work friends that I don't know and don't care to get to know. I have so much going on with the music stuff that I'm worn out being around people

But I take care of his truck and his mom's cars - never a charge. I stop by and help with projects. He's more like family than friend though.

To compound things, he and my gf went to school together since 2nd grade when she moved to the area. In 5th grade we consolidated parts of three elementary schools and that's when I met both of them!

Just last night my band played at a local, annual benefit put on by the local rock radio station (101.1 WRIF Detroit) called Toys For Tots. He showed up to that and after he stopped by the condo for a visit and took off after a lotbof laughs. Tonight the three of us with my mom are probably going to drive around an look at the Christmas lights. Fridays we're all going to a play at Oakland University. When his mom is in town she goes too. It's fun, and honestly feels more like family than friends. I lost a lot of family due to my socio-political views, so having life long friends of similar views is a great sort of "consoation" prize.
 
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