So I guess I am a single man today.

Brandon1

Brandon1

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I have been with the girl of my dreams for the past 3 1/2 years. We have always been perfect for each other and have always had tons of fun together. Seemed like everything was going 100% perfect. Now just for the point of making this story sound right, she wanted to be a large animal vet when she graduates.

Well, July 7-14 she went on a cattle drive to Wyoming. Gone for 1 week, we have never been away from each other more than 3days. She comes back acting all wierd, like she does not even want to see me. Well, skip to today and I start asking questions. Seems that she has realized that she may not always stay with me in NC and would someday like to move somewhere else (new idea). Says that she loved Wyoming so much that she wants to go work there next summer. Seems that to prevent further heartache years down the road when we would be even more involved with each other, we should break up now.

Now, we still love each other 100% and wanted to be together always. I guess that her life and mine (one that is not willing to move from NC) wont work together in the long run. So we decide that it may be best for us to go our seperate ways. Now we arent enemy's or anything like that. In fact it was one of the hardest breakups (and one of the only) that I have ever done. Probably only b/c we still love each other very much. I was really upset and the fact that I have seen her for 3years and now I just wont is really heartbreaking.

I dont know why I posted this, I just had to vent. All my friends were asleep and I have nobody to talk to. I am just not looking forward to the weeks ahead b/c I wil be missing her so much. I love her and hope to still be in contact with her for a while. I am not mad at her for wanting to move elsewhere, just livin in sucksville right now.
 
Sorry to hear that. Have faith, it will all work out in the end, whether it's with her or someone else.
 
I hope, she was my girlfriend and my best friend. I feel like I have lost 2 people at once.

I hope maybe I can spend time with her as a friend in the future, or maybe she will realize this is a big mistake and be willing to figure something else out.
 
Brandon there's nothing we can say to make this easier.. BUT you must trust me when I say it DOES get easier... my ex and I were together for 8 years, we were friends since the age of 18... when we splitt it was harder than nails. Now 5 years later I am happier than I have ever been in my life.

Good luck to you bud, keep you chin up and show her what you are made of.. by this I mean if this is something she really needs to do for her life to be happy AND if you really do love her, well then as hard as it is for you, you have to support her.

Hopefully you have a strong network of friends to help you through this.

If you ever need to chat just PM me.. I've been where you are at..
 
It's a tough call and sorry about all that, but to the honest truth, like somebody else said, it will pass. Been there, and it's no fun what so ever. Hope things work out for the best.
 
Bro. if it's true love and it's meant to be it will work out. Tha's what you have to look foward to. At the other end, if it's not meant to be and you think she is/was the best thing.... well that means that God has someone even MORE than what you had before, and that too is something to look foward to.
 
Thanks guys, I hope it works out. We have had some problems in the past so maybe I can find someone that does not have any problems. Or maybe we can get back together, I dunno.
 
Brandon1 said:
Thanks guys, I hope it works out. We have had some problems in the past so maybe I can find someone that does not have any problems. Or maybe we can get back together, I dunno.
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Hmm, I have realized that even the most perfect relationships are not "problem" free...
 
MotorCity Honda said:
Hmm, I have realized that even the most perfect relationships are not "problem" free...
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Couldn't agree more!:awesome:
 
I'm sorry to hear this. I understand how bad it is. My gf also choose her job over me. It's hard, I know. After 4 years it's still hurt inside. Don't give up on her yet, as you did mentioned that both of u still love each other very much. I hope both of u could find a way to make it work. It's hard. But don't give up.

Sometimes no matter how we like to imagine how the world would work. Even under so much pressure. If the world would be just as simple as the word LOVE. Be cool Brandon and hope both of u guys would find a way to be together again.
 
Brandon, first thing I want to say is, it's good that you vented here, since there was no one to talk to at the time. It's not good keeping it all inside. Sometimes it's hard to talk to friends because you don't want them to see you breakdown. Getting off your chest here is sometimes easier because no one can "see" you, but we can all feel your pain thru what you're "typing". I know this first hand, because I just recently lost a family friend (pet), and it was hard to talk to anyone without breaking up. I posted my feelings here, and there was a tremendous outpouring of well-wishes, stories, and pictures to help me thru a difficult period.
I know the pain of breaking up. For me it was a little different. I was married for 13 years before my divorce. She stopped loving me, but I still loved her (back then). She wanted the divorce, and finally after trying my hardest to win her back, I gave in. It was really hard. But guess what......I remarried and I've never been happier. It'll be 7 years of a happy marriage in October.
It'll be tough for awhile, I'm not going to lie. But who knows what'll happen......she may decide against leaving NC, or she may go. But whatever happens, both of you will be happier in the end because one isn't holding the other from achieving their goal/dreams.
Hang in there, Brandon. We're all here if you need to talk.
 
I totally agree with MotorCity Honda and Dust2Glory, what is meant to be is meant to be. I too dated a girl for about 8 years and were were engaged and it was strange becuase as the weading date aproached we both started to realize that despite us being together for so long we actually grew apart...long story short we decided to go our seperate ways. It hurt becuase it does hurt but like Dust2Glory and MotorCity Honda said God had a better person picked out for me and to be honest I am very thankfull of the partner I have now and appretiate her every day.

Don't feel bad about sharing here, that's why I beleave this forum is the best one becuase everyone here is like a family...I call it "mi familia", some think that I'm joking but in reality all of you that I interact with here are like my family we all share a peace of our selves and well Brandon I for one I'm here for you bro and as you can see there are others that got your back too....so glad you shared your thoughts and hope you feel better.
 
I hate reading stories like these Brandon because I can only imagine how upset I would be if my wife would leave me!!!

I agree with the above posters: if it's really meant to be, then it will work out. You guys have been together for a long time and her trip was something new that she hadn't experienced yet. People go through stages all the time where they think the grass is greener on the other side, it's perfectly normal and part of life. She might have gotten cold feet thinking she would be stuck in NC for the rest of her life and that there's more out there. If she's wanting to move, then why don't you guys talk about both moving?
 
I told her I would move anywhere she did. She said "I know you would, but you would never be happy and I could not ask you to do that".

Thanks for all the help guys. It is easier to vent here b/c I dont really like "breaking" down in front of my friends. If I keep busy, no time for me to get upset. But if I talk about it to someone, or look a a picture of her, I die.

It was really hard this morning taking down the pictures of her I had hanging in my room and in my truck.
 
I know how you feel because I feel the same about my girlfriend. She's my girlfriend / best friend / confident. I would be super upset too if I would loose here for a reason or another. She's leaving for university this fall and only that is breaking my heart since I won't see her as often so I can only imagine how I would feel loosing her….

The only advice I can give you is keep busy like you said. Sports help me a lot when I’m down. Also, don’t be afraid to vent to your friends, because friends are the family we choose. I’m sure they will help you a lot in this time.

Also remember: nothing happen for nothing

take care Brandon
 
Sounds alot better than my breakup last month...

That is true love for her to be honest and let you go IMO.
 
Brandon, I'm sorry to hear that bro. I too lost my girlfriend of 5 years about 4 months ago. What literally seemed like overnight, we both realized that it may be best to go separate ways, because our lives seemed to be wanting to go in different directions. It was extremely hard not having her around, especially when wherever I looked it seemed to remind me of her, but it all seems to be working out. I have met another woman and we have started dating now, and I have never been happier. We share so much more together than my ex and I ever did, and looking back at it I am thankful that it (the break-up) happened when it did. Like others have said, if your love for each other is meant to be, then it will be. But like I feel about my situation, sometimes the hard things in life come with a great reward in the long-run. I have met someone that I connect with on such a deep level its almost scary, and I look forward to our future together each and every day!
 
Sad to read this Brandon :( Its never fun to brake up with a gf. I most agree with the others, you will find your true love! Last year, I moved from were I live, down to another city to go at college. I meet a girl there, and we hooked up. After a while, I found out that I missed my home town to mutch, so I wanted to move back home. Guess what? My gf loved me so mutch, that she said bye to all of her friends and family, and moved with me. I am so glad she did.

I hope you will find your true love. Good luck Brandon :)
 
everything happens for a reason.
You may net see why, but it does. I was with my ex for 5 or so years. Had a beautiful daughter together.
We divorced after only 1 year of Marriage. Was hard at first. I was pissed to the max and depressed, but now, I couldn't be happier. If it wasn't for splitting up, I would not be here in Texas, or have my business, or have my other children. And what I went through with my oldest son, Kobe. Many of you know the story about my son....

I wouldn't change it for the world. Life goes on, things change, everything happens for a reason, you'll see. Good luck my friend!
 
Man, yall are so much more supportive than on the "other" forum. Everyone there thinks she cheated on me (definatly not true).

Thanks for the support. I may be going about this a wierd way, but I dont see any reason why we cant help each other through our hard situation. Seein as we left on "I still love you" terms, if I cant have her as a gf, I want her as a friend. We may end up working out better that way anyway.
 
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