So I guess I am a single man today.

Brandon1 said:
Man, yall are so much more supportive than on the "other" forum. Everyone there thinks she cheated on me (definatly not true).
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Not everyone said she cheated but face the facts, to suddenly start avoiding somebody after you have been together for 3 years is just plain starring you in the face. One does not start doing that so easily like an on/off witch on UDM. Everything OK before going away for a week, avoiding you one week later. Something stinks there beig time. It does not have to be that she cheated but it is definitely how people with guilty conscience act. Also, I doubt you should think about getting back together. She is obviously capable of leaving you if she thinks that is in her best interest. That is not love IMHO.

So, other forum is less supportive? Please notice supportive means helping person stand up when something pushed them down. That does not neccessariy mean group hugs. True support is when you pour cold water on person to wake them up, not let them stay in the dirt. It might be tough love and it might seem cruel and non-supportive but trust me it is the best thing one can do for you. Now get up and move on and find yourself a relationship in which woman will care just as much about you as she does about herself, not less.
 
Cheating was my first too, but I didn't want to be the first to say it.

Either way man, I feel for you. I lost my first fiance. However, if that hadn't have happened, I wouldn't have met my wife. There is a reason for everything.
 
I'm sorry to hear about this. Man, that takes a lot of courage to let her do what she wants to do. It's good you're supporting her.
 
ZoranC said:
Not everyone said she cheated but face the facts, to suddenly start avoiding somebody after you have been together for 3 years is just plain starring you in the face. One does not start doing that so easily like an on/off witch on UDM. Everything OK before going away for a week, avoiding you one week later. Something stinks there beig time. It does not have to be that she cheated but it is definitely how people with guilty conscience act. Also, I doubt you should think about getting back together. She is obviously capable of leaving you if she thinks that is in her best interest. That is not love IMHO.

So, other forum is less supportive? Please notice supportive means helping person stand up when something pushed them down. That does not neccessariy mean group hugs. True support is when you pour cold water on person to wake them up, not let them stay in the dirt. It might be tough love and it might seem cruel and non-supportive but trust me it is the best thing one can do for you. Now get up and move on and find yourself a relationship in which woman will care just as much about you as she does about herself, not less.
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It's just not quite what I want to hear. I know in my heart that isnt what happened, seemsl like 9/10 people on autopia thought that way. I need support telling me to go get another one, or she may come back, or you will be ok being friends, not telling me she cheated on me.
 
Brandon1 said:
Man, yall are so much more supportive than on the "other" forum. Everyone there thinks she cheated on me (definatly not true).

Thanks for the support. I may be going about this a wierd way, but I dont see any reason why we cant help each other through our hard situation. Seein as we left on "I still love you" terms, if I cant have her as a gf, I want her as a friend. We may end up working out better that way anyway.
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Usually 90% of the times, that doesnt work out. Drama occurs once you guys start seein other people.

But I did have a friend that ended a relationship in HS, than met her again after 5 years, started dating again, and now look at them..Happily Married for a year now. So you never know..
 
DavidJ021,

Dude I love your avatar :D :D :D :D :D :D she's HOT!!! :righton:
 
We have all surely had to overcome the obstacle of losing "the one". Funny thing is, usually it is a fork in the road that places us on the right track for true happiness and bliss. Think positive ....keep your eyes open and move forward as better things are coming and you will always look back on these memories as snapshots of life but you will move on and make new ones !
 
Brandon1 said:
It's just not quite what I want to hear. I know in my heart that isnt what happened, seemsl like 9/10 people on autopia thought that way. I need support telling me to go get another one, or she may come back, or you will be ok being friends, not telling me she cheated on me.
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Of course you do not like to hear it. Nobody does. Please notice I did not say she cheated. I said "guilty conscience". It can be for whatever. If over nothing else then at least over the fact that she knows she is dumping you so she can get what she wants.

Will she come back? She may but do you want to be with person that does not have a problem abandoning you if that suits her?

Will you be OK being friends? I have seen that happen but usually it is when neither of people had strong feelings for each other. Also, personally I can not be friend with person that backstabbed me.

Should you go and get another one? No. You should go and get yourself rid of hurt, make it a past and make yourself a happy man on your own so when another one comes by past does not impact the future. You should take lessons learnt in the past to steer yourself away from trouble in the future. In the meantime enjoy life, enjoy it responsibly, and grow yourself an even better person.
 
Don't go looking to jump into something else.. If this was just a casual relationship of a couple months I'd say "get out there boy and find somethin else to dip your stick in".. but that's not your situation.

You need to go through the loss and all the feelings associated with it. Filling the void with another woman before you allow yourself to get through this will not help you grow/mature as a person.

It's kind of like a death (sounds wierd I know). When my ex and I broke up (like I said of 8 yrs) It totally felt like something died.

Take some time to yourself. Hang with your buds, post when you need to vent, detail your ass off show her respect. In doing these things you will take care of yourself while still leaving the door open should she change her mind
 
Yeah I havent had a GF do this, but my Mom chose her "career" over her family, didnt see me almost at all for years, then "realized" her errors, and we worked it out in the end. I dont know what it is about careers sometimes, but out of experience, these actions suck.

Best of luck to you and I hope you will work it out.
 
But aleast you still have the kick butt truck!!! that has to put a smile on your face!!
 
Brandon we are all trying to help and give advice. Each experience is different, everyone has different reactions and personalities. Bottom line is you have to take care of yourself. Obviously you are very upset. Just know that we are here for you! My suggestion is exercise!
My father passed from cancer a few years ago. It was very depressing to see him fight so hard while being so weak. Anyway, that was obviously very upsetting, stressful and depressing. Just as this is upsetting and heartbreaking for you. The only way I got thru two long years of watching him fight, was excerise. DON'T THINK I AM AN EXERCISE NUT, BECAUSE I AM NOT. My exercise was Dr. recommended, because I refused to take meds. So again my suggestion is exercise it will releave stress, clear your head, get out your frustrations and just makes you feel better.
As for the cheating thing. You know your girlfiend we don't. Don't let other people put ideas in your head. Please realize we are here for you whatever the outcome may be. Good luck!
 
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