That time of the year again...

Shane731

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When cabin fever sets in, and so does the rudeness. It amazes me how some of you guys, guys I have the greatest respect for, can sit there and pick people apart without a second thought. I wonder, would you so easily say out loud to someone's face that which you have no problem typing out while hidden behind a screen? I know everybody is itching to get outside and detail, but my god, surely there must be something better to do than sitting at a computer (or whatever you're using) and think up useless jabs and insults. Don't pick at every little thing that you don't like - you're not the detail police. Different strokes for different folks makes the world go round. This forum is full of newbies and professionals and a wide spectrum of people in between, myself included. I know more than I used to and less than I want to, and I would like to think that I can sit down at my computer at any time of day, go to Autogeekonline Auto Detailing Forum, and be able to learn something, maybe even share something, without fear of being bullied. And that's what it is - bullying. I'm no "detail artist" by any means, but it seems to me that those who are are the guys you never see patting themselves on the back. A little foresight and consideration goes a long way. Well, I've said what I want to say - I think and hope you get the message, but I want to leave you with this parting thought:


The kindest word in all the world is the unkind word, unsaid. ~Author Unknown
 
different people = different personalities.

not everyone is always going to agree on everything..

this applies to ALL detailing forums, and also ones that are not...

it happens...
 
I think that is gonna happen from time to time on any forum, no mater what they talk about, every now and then there is someone that will show up that has cyber cojones...

I have to admit, there has been a few times I see things I don't like, and just before I post what I'm gonna say, I just close the page, (Except once...)

I just think every forum has its people that just needs to be ignored, and those that are there to teach and learn, luckily this forum has more helpful people...

Maybe the mods could add an ignore button, that way if someone does not want to see comments from an specific member it can be blocked, ( I don't think I have see that here).

Maybe this was one of those times I should have closed the page... :dunno:
 
BigAl3 said:
different people = different personalities.

not everyone is always going to agree on everything..

this applies to ALL detailing forums, and also ones that are not...

it happens...
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Well, that may be the case, but it shouldn't be so. The way I see some people act, there are days you'd think this was a high school instead of a detailing forum. Besides, it doesn't help anybody - I can't detail my car with an insult.
 
My mother used to tell me; "If I didn't have something nice to say then keep your mouth shut"!

I have to admit there have been those times that I've crossed over the line accidentally but I'm pretty good about monitoring what I say and type. I won't type anything I wouldn't say to someone's face, I'm not what I call a "keyboard commando".

In some cases I've seen some of us are a bit more passionate about our beliefs than others but as Shane said, some are just plain rude and have no place on this forum. Don't confuse this with political correctness because I can assure you I'm in the top 5 of the least politically correct people on the planet.

For some reason we tend to dissect every word written and unless we agree completely we feel compelled to comment on it. We all have different views and opinions but this doesn't mean we need to object to everything that's different.

Emotion is something within each and everyone of us yet when we type we expect that every reader will understand and interpret our words in the exact way they were typed...........I can guarantee they will not....

Merry Christmas & a Happy New Year fellow Geeksters!! :props:
 
Peopel can disagree without belittling or insulting and people can agree to disagree.
 
Just think how boring life would be if we all agreed on everything. Forums kinda remind me of family, theres always someone your not going to agree with there choices, but you still care for them regardless

Deal with it ;)
 
Flash Gordon said:
Just think how boring life would be if we all agreed on everything. Forums kinda remind me of family, theres always someone your not going to agree with there choices, but you still care for them regardless

Deal with it ;)
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I don't think the OP is expecting everyone to agree. Just show a little respect when disagreeing.
 
dougaross said:
Peopel can disagree without belittling or insulting and people can agree to disagree.
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golliger said:
I don't think the OP is expecting everyone to agree. Just show a little respect when disagreeing.
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I think this is exactly what Shane's referring to.

RESPECT...............Hmmmm, there's a song in there somewhere......:props:
 
I should likely refrain from this post, but clearly believe that Shane is correct as well as others above. The forum was designed to enhance the products PBMA offers especially those thru Autogeek (which has the largest selection, more than house brands). It is used by many and alot are new and weekenders looking for best advice. Professionals that come here love the lines and also really want to help others and share there secrets and best tech advice. Well thats how it use to be .... now its more about one upping each other. Then they go to other forums and suggest they have been removed or suspended without warrant after abusing the forum, members, and AG staff.

"Unfortunately the internet does not always portray whats going on beyond the keyboard." All I can assure each of you is we want a safe, sound, and fun place to visit. We want each member to truly respect each other and take the time to positively approach each post and forum friend. If they are doing something wrong, then help not attack ! (stop taking things so personally too) Also remember there are more than one way to get something done, and each persons outcome is specific to them just as in their favorite wax.

This holiday season we should be celebrating our friends and years results and planning on moving forward together in 2011. I hope we can all move forward today ... together as friends with a common hobby (or career).
 
I would like to publicly apologize for any instance that I may have stepped over the line with any member here. I also apologize to sspudncik for mixing up post #'s in another thread where he politely corrected another member. If I have disrespected you, please excuse my ignorance. If you have returned the favor to me, consider it wiped away, clean slate. No grudges will be held.

Please be safe in all that you do, your family would like to have you around for many more holidays. Merry Christmas to all! :dblthumb2:
 
I must say that this forum most definitely has the nicest people than ALOT of other forums I have been on. I own a Subaru STI and I go on all of the forums for STI owners and all that goes on there are arguments, arguments, and arguments. It is so annoying that you cant even ask a question without people flaming each other. This forum on the other hand has been very respectful and I've only seen a few instances of people flaming and arguing with each other. Obviously its going to happen no matter where you go but, by far this site is the most laid back and you get the information you want without all the rudeness.
 
BobbyG said:
I think this is exactly what Shane's referring to.

RESPECT...............Hmmmm, there's a song in there somewhere......:props:
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[video=youtube_share;6FOUqQt3Kg0] - Aretha Franklin - Respect [1967][/video]
 
I remember it well, I was a Sophomore in High School when that song came out! :laughing:
 
Tis the season! Im surprised at the pissing contest some of you enjoy having. Really? I dont understand why you would let someone get to you, when you reach that point, its time to step away for the keyboard. Maybe things dont come across as they are intended being as some is lost in the typing as opposed to face to face. Others probably wouldnt have the same to say if they were face to face with that same person that they are belittling.
 
Jeff120 said:
Maybe things dont come across as they are intended being as some is lost in the typing as opposed to face to face.
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I agree with this. I think alot of the time, things are taken wrong. It is hard to say what you mean sometimes when "just typing". Just becasue someone is being bold and straight to the point doesn't mean they are being rude, inconsiderate, or trying to start trouble. They are just simply saying what they have to say quickly and with as few words as possible because they are either using their phone or just don't have anything else to say. Not every comment needs to have the "fluff" of smiley faces....
It is easy for a comment to be taken the wrong way when you can't see facial, hand and body gestures.....
 
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