the love is gone
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abrcrombe
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Kelso, sorry to hear that. 4.5 years is a long time and I hope you aren't losing a great friend because it is hard for it to be just friends and no awkwardness. The whole... no sex thing... have fun going crazy. Maybe the girls will like how excited you are about it, and remind them of how it was in HS. Then you can get back all that lost time. Good luck man!
Reddwarf
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Kelso, bummer deal. Four years is a long time to date and an even longer time to go without sex. Even married men get it more than that!
As a wise person once said "this too shall pass". Breaking off a long term relationship is never easy even if you want to do it. Hang in there, all will be better one day.
By the way, I'm old fashion, I think you need to taste the goods, if you know what I mean!
As a wise person once said "this too shall pass". Breaking off a long term relationship is never easy even if you want to do it. Hang in there, all will be better one day.
By the way, I'm old fashion, I think you need to taste the goods, if you know what I mean!
or do you just knock wallskillrwheels@autogeek said:When did they change that rule ?? Home come nobody told me ?? Im gonna be knocking some boots tonight.
Kelso, glad to see you smile !!
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-568121720405768556
Happily ever after!:grouphug:
Gary Sword
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I'm glad The Love Is Back for you Kelso.
FloridaNative
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Kelso said:
I am happy that things worked out for you Kelso, but it is my humble opinion that you both need to do some serious soul searching. If you really believe that she is the one, then I think you need to think about taking steps towards marriage, and if you are going to marry her, it is very important that you guys see eye to eye on the fundamentals. If you are not of the same belief systems all of this will become a source of strife down the road, especially when kids become a part of the equation. I strongly encourage you both to enroll in a pre-marital class. A good one will last several weeks and touch on all the major pit falls in marriage. It is a good exercise to see how you both think and feel on a variety of major issues before saying "I do". And if you discover that you are not compatible, it gives you an opportunity to bow out gracefully before getting in too deep. 4 and a half years is a long time to invest in something that is not sure. If she is the one, why not marry her? If she's not, then isn't it better to let her go so that you both don't miss the one that is truly intended for you?? This is just my opinion so take it for what it's worth, but after 10 years of marriage I know how these things have come out in my relationship in my own life. When your are infatuated you think that your feelings for each other can overcome all obstacles, but let me tell you that after marriage that infatuation quickly gives way to reality and a sense of disillusionment that the relationship was not what you thought it would be and that's when all those differences become glaring. As you work through the obstacles and you see the person as they truly are, faults and good qualities alike, and you make the conscious choice to honor your vows, that's when the true love begins. Love is not how another person makes you feel. Love is when you are willing to put your own self aside for the sake of the other person. True love is the greatest thing in life and I hope that you find it. Best wishes. :grouphug:
Kelso
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wo, i apprecate the post and when the time comes nearer, ill definately consider the class you mentioned.and to be honest ive considered marriage but its basically impossible right now. big problem is time and finances, were both in college and im liivng at home, i pay for most of my own stuff, like 90% of it, but i dont have the funds to buy a house or make payments on that kind of a loan, and it would be pointless at this stage in our lives.this is the only problem we have ever really had, only time we broke up since 8th grade, were an odd couple that doesnt seem to fit the norms of any other relationship
FloridaNative
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Kelso said:
That's sweet that you've been together for so long. So your relationship must be something special. I hope that she is the one for you and that you two can be happy together. My best wishes for you both. :cheers:
ScottB
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Kelso said:
marriage doesnt have a price tag, but you should be commended on seeing the entire pic. Some of the best times will be scraping two nickels together, or visiting some small no name restaurant with a 2for1 special. Money does not define your life, but is a necessity for some of the finer things. Make it as a team, and never challenge one as putting less into the pot.
ScottB
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impossible -- no way, cannot be done, wont even try, person likely only seeing one side of the coin.
improbable --- not likely, areas need further definement, speedbumps make the issue look bigger than likely are.
Not saying you need to get married, infact, at your age enjoy some rump-de-rump rump rump. Youve got plenty of years before handing them over for special occasions and anniversary use only. (hahaha)
improbable --- not likely, areas need further definement, speedbumps make the issue look bigger than likely are.
Not saying you need to get married, infact, at your age enjoy some rump-de-rump rump rump. Youve got plenty of years before handing them over for special occasions and anniversary use only. (hahaha)