The wife - "You are not touching MY CAR!

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Since I have not posted a question - AG forums asked me to post something - so -- after spending hefty bucks getting everything I need to wash, clay, remove swirls, glaze, wax etc. I told my wife I was going to make OUR 2012 Camry Hybrid (Barcelona Red), shine like new or better! Her response -- "You are not touching MY CAR -- this is the first car in 49 years that we have bought in MY name -- so forget it -- you are not going to mess up MY car!"

She's just a tad upset that I have spent months now learning all I can on AG (thanks for the hundreds of terrific articles Mike and everyone else!). Since she doesn't want me to clay, remove swirls, glaze then coat and/or wax, I read all about AIO by Wolfgang Uber. Sounded like I might get that by her - slicker and quicker? ---- oops, no chance!

Should I sell the car -- and get one in my name?
Or, should I man up and just go the whole nine yards and surprise her?

Being a Newbie at this I am a little nervous --- as to which process to use -- AIO or multiple steps as noted, or suggestions by the AG crew!

It will get done -- if I survive! :buffing: :xyxthumbs: -- maybe you experienced folks can help me convince the little woman this is THE THING TO DO!

Thanks --- I am having a ball on this website --
Didn't expect to have so much fun learning about detailing.
 
My advice is to do YOUR car first, after she sees how good it comes out she will let you do hers.
 
Is there a reason for her response, other than the car is in her name?
 
How much work/correction does your car's paint need? Can you show your wife roughness in the paint with the "baggie" test? Can you show her spider webbing or swirls in the paint? Maybe by correcting a small area, you can demonstrate how talented you are.

I hope this helps.

Roger T
 
Just leave it alone. She's clearly not interested in you touching the car in any way, shape, or form.

You aren't going to surprise her in any positive way if she told you not to touch it and you go ahead and do it anyways.

Despite any and all good meaning intentions, I always get the cold shoulder if I was told specifically not to do something and I go and do it anyways. Even if the end result is a net positive, it doesn't matter to women if their opinion/wishes are ignored.
 
This sounds like a personal problem to me..why is she upset with you that you're learning a new hobby?

If she is that adamant about you not touching her car, I wouldn't do it, you're just inviting more problems.
 
Setec is spot on. If you have another car, do it first and show her how good it comes out. This is a good way to practice also. I was in a similar situation except that I didn't want to do my own brand new car until I figured out what I was doing, so I "practiced" on my two older cars first.
 
evspencer44 said:
"You are not touching MY CAR -- this is the first car in 49 years that we have bought in MY name -- so forget it -- you are not going to mess up MY car!"

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There is probably a lot more to the story than you are sharing here. 49 years of history in that comment.

I agree with Setec, do your car first.

Not sure what tool you have, but Wolfgang Uber is pretty much foolproof and will provide amazing results with a dual action polisher.
 
Agreed - happy wife - happy life. Prove your skills on a different car and then maybe she will be interested. If she was a customer and you went ahead and did a correction you would be in certain trouble as well.
 
screw it...let her take care of her own car. Her kind wanted equal rights, so there you go...have at it!
 
Seems like there is some underlying issues here.

If you are married, who cares about the name on the title? If you're married, it is the "couple's" property normally.

Regardless of what she says, I'd say take care of the car and preserve your investment the best you can. I'm sure that the oil gets changed regularly, tires get rotated on schedule, washed regularly, and all other maintenance is taken care of, so why not take care of the paint? Cars are often the one of the largest investments next to a home, so take care of them.

Seems silly to me that a married couple is having this conversation.

Randy
 
Did you screw up her last cars finish? There must be a reason behind her statement...
 
This sounds bad... Like a larger issue.... Like yr wife has no confidence in you. I dunno. It just seems like this may only be scratching the surface.
 
Personally...I'd be so tempted to tell her that as long as her hairstyle made her look like Rosie O'Donnel...I wouldn't be touching her either!



Bob
 
evspencer44 said:
Since I have not posted a question - AG forums asked me to post something - so -- after spending hefty bucks getting everything I need to wash, clay, remove swirls, glaze, wax etc. I told my wife I was going to make OUR 2012 Camry Hybrid (Barcelona Red), shine like new or better! Her response -- "You are not touching MY CAR -- this is the first car in 49 years that we have bought in MY name -- so forget it -- you are not going to mess up MY car!"

She's just a tad upset that I have spent months now learning all I can on AG (thanks for the hundreds of terrific articles Mike and everyone else!). Since she doesn't want me to clay, remove swirls, glaze then coat and/or wax, I read all about AIO by Wolfgang Uber. Sounded like I might get that by her - slicker and quicker? ---- oops, no chance!

Should I sell the car -- and get one in my name?
Or, should I man up and just go the whole nine yards and surprise her?
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Bad move... BAD move. This can only end poorly.. either option.

Do what Setec said - If you must, do YOUR car, and then if she agrees it turned out well, then ask if she'd like hers to look that good. If she says no, and you do it anyways, you're just asking for unhappiness.
 
It seems to me like there is only one car where you stated "OUR" which is in her name. Selling it and replacing it with a car in your name is going to have hectic consequences as she doesnt want u to touch her car, imagine when she finds out you sold it!
 
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