What's wrong with them??

[CAMAROZL1]

Im only 25, but when I was in high school I bought my first truck. My pop helped me by using his credit and putting a down payment for me. I still had to repay the down payment though. I worked hard for 4 months to pay off that car over summer break and into first semester of school. It was, at the time, the only thing I had to my name. I washed that truck every week and wax every other. I took great care of that truck and still do. I still own that truck and love it. Could never sell it. I learned a lot about responsibility and caring for something because I bought it and work my a## off for it.

 

[shoeless89]

I used to be the exact same way until I ended up on skid row in downtown Cincinnati with everything I owned fitting in a duffel bag and a back pack and homeless. I had to go through a lot to get to where I am today.

For me it took all that to be willing to change how I live. For most people though it doesn't. Have faith, if they get tired of it they will take action to change it.

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[rotzilla]

Both kids payed for their own vehicles, never did I give them a car. I taught them how to clean and service them.

Has she learned anything in the two years since ? Quote:

She has mellowed some, mosty because of a new relationship. Not to mentioned she's knocked up. Tough love is one thing, but OMG!

 

[Flash Gordon]

Im only 25, but when I was in high school I bought my first truck. My pop helped me by using his credit and putting a down payment for me. I still had to repay the down payment though. I worked hard for 4 months to pay off that car over summer break and into first semester of school. It was, at the time, the only thing I had to my name. I washed that truck every week and wax every other. I took great care of that truck and still do. I still own that truck and love it. Could never sell it. I learned a lot about responsibility and caring for something because I bought it and work my a## off for it.

I used to be the exact same way until I ended up on skid row in downtown Cincinnati with everything I owned fitting in a duffel bag and a back pack and homeless. I had to go through a lot to get to where I am today.

For me it took all that to be willing to change how I live. For most people though it doesn't. Have faith, if they get tired of it they will take action to change it.

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Good for both of you! rops:

 

[donb]

My daughters car's interior is trashed all the time. Even after she "cleans" it. (about once a year!)
I prefer not to get in it but when I do I ask her if there is anything in there that will bite me!
At first she just laughed...now she gets angry. But its still trashed!

 

[Laura]

When you take a dirty car to repair shop do you really think they do their best? When I take my car to a dealer for oil change I make sure it is spotless and they treat it as such.

I do this! I make sure the entire car, engine and all, is as clean as possible before taking it in. I'm almost past the warranty period, though. When that happens, I'll start going to a shop where everybody already knows me...and my obsession.

I thought I was the only one. Now I feel better that it's not only me. (Misery loves company) LOL! What can you do? I close the doors to their rooms. Otherwise, they appear normal; they just seem happy to live like bums in a trashbin. I have a standing order of no eating whatsoever in my car or in their rooms. I make a tour through their rooms periodically to make sure there's no contraband or food. I feel like a jailer, but for me there's no other way. I think it'll be this way until they have to work for and care for their own. Mine are 19 and 18 years old.

Mine are only 10 & 13, but I have the same problem. I got tired of the fight over their rooms, so I took a new approach. I told them I was no longer going to feel responsible for take care of their stuff, however, I insist that they take care of my stuff. As long as their junk stays in their room, I stay out. Whatever they leave sitting around the rest of the house becomes mine. And if they mis-use something of mine, they lose the ability to use it again. I'm not convinced my plan is working; however, I do believe that they won't learn responsibility until they are made to be responsible, and the only way they seem to learn anything is the hard way.

 

[SkateForGirl]

My Girlfriend is the same way with here new Honda Civic. Its quite discusting sometimes. Sometimes I don't want to even sit in it. We don't eat fast food anymore but when we did she would leave taco bell rappers or unfinished food in her car for weeks. :doh:

Lets not get started with the room. All I'm going to say is you couldn't see the hardwood floor because her clothes are everywhere and you can sleep on the bed because their is a pile of junk and clothes piles 3 feet high on it.

Luckily for her she has me to keep the car somewhat clean every 2 to 3 weeks. :xyxthumbs:

OP - sounds like your kids and my Girlfriend are one in the same lol

 

[CAMAROZL1]

My Girlfriend is the same way with here new Honda Civic. Its quite discusting sometimes. Sometimes I don't want to even sit in it. We don't eat fast food anymore but when we did she would leave taco bell rappers or unfinished food in her car for weeks. :doh:

Lets not get started with the room. All I'm going to say is you couldn't see the hardwood floor because her clothes are everywhere and you can sleep on the bed because their is a pile of junk and clothes piles 3 feet high on it.

Luckily for her she has me to keep the car somewhat clean every 2 to 3 weeks. :xyxthumbs:

OP - sounds like your kids and my Girlfriend are one in the same lol

I must of got lucky, my GF is a clean freak. I work sometimes 48 hours come home and just relax and she's always there to clean up my mess. However, I do clean her car for her even though she does keep the inside of hers VERY clean. I hate to say it but her interior is more organized and sometimes cleaner than mine. now that she had her "selective parking" mishap, she's even more cautious. Proud to say I have made her a bit of a AG. She loves how the paint looks in So. Cal sun and loves to show of how clean her car is. Still have to teach her the right way to wash the car though, even though I prefer to do it

 

[JBL]

Mine are only 10 & 13, but I have the same problem. I got tired of the fight over their rooms, so I took a new approach. I told them I was no longer going to feel responsible for take care of their stuff, however, I insist that they take care of my stuff. As long as their junk stays in their room, I stay out. Whatever they leave sitting around the rest of the house becomes mine. And if they mis-use something of mine, they lose the ability to use it again. I'm not convinced my plan is working; however, I do believe that they won't learn responsibility until they are made to be responsible, and the only way they seem to learn anything is the hard way.

As 8 year old boys, mom knew how to get us up and cleaning.

Walk in, unplug the Nintendo (preferred it if we were playing it at the time...you know, dramatics), and put it in a trash bag. When the rooms are clean, the Nintendo could be set back up, but not a second before then.