First I'd like to share that while relaxing at home after working all day I started getting e-mail from the forum letting me know this thread was being reported as a problem thread and to everyone that reported the thread I say,
Thank you.
If and when there is a problem on this forum it's much better to simply report the problem the become untangled in it. For anyone that might not be familiar with how to use the report feature here's an article that shows and explains it.
What to do when you see a problem on the forum
Of course then I monitored this thread the rest of the night.
Now a few comments...
While this forum is a great resource of information and social dialog, it is not immune from the nonsense that goes on at any other forum.
While no forum including this forum is immune from the nonsense that goes on at other forums I'm very happy to say and also very confident to state that this forum is not known for nonsense, drama or flame wars.
I've been posting to the Internet that I can document since 1994. I've been a member of and running discussion forums since the software was invented and released in beta form. So I have a little experience with how discussion forums work and even more specifically I'm in charge of how this forum functions. I'm very happy to say that this forum doesn't have the problems most other forums have due to the way it's ran and also due the high caliber of people it attracts.
Anyone that comes to this forum to cause problems are simply given enough rope to hang themselves and shown the door. That's why it stays nice and friendly and that's the way it's going to stay.
The good news is we never ban anyone. A person bans themselves by breaking the forum rules. All we do is enforce the forum rules. And this circles back to why this forum is the exception to the rule and while it's not as you say,
it is not immune from the nonsense that goes on at any other forum.
The type of nonsense that gos on at other forums just doesn't take place here and if and when it does it's dealt with quickly so again... it's not a problem and it's not representative of this forum community.
No.
Delete the posts of those who have chosen to not offer discussion, only juvenile remarks.
And just for the public record. We
never delete anything on this forum for
legal reasons.
Threads and posts may be MOVED to the moderators forum but rest assured, everything that is ever posted is forever preserved it just might not be visible to the public but to Moderators only.
And that's the way a professional forum is run.
The tone in the OP was not intended to present itself that way.
That said, from reading through this thread it's easy to see that enough of our good and long time forum members did read your post with a negative and condescending tone and that's why you received the reaction you've received.
I think the lesson here is to take a few extra moments to proof-read what you write and try to look at it though other people's eyes and if needed make adjustments to make 100% sure that what you have written comes off and is perceived correctly and in the manner you truly intend.
I actually went back to edit it to soften the tone and remove the bold lettering, but the edit option was not available.
The time limit for editing is something I implemented because when I came to this forum to work in 2009 there were a handful of troublemakers that took advantage of the no time limit edit feature to edit their original remarks for nefarious reasons.
This circles back to what I wrote above about taking some extra time to re-read what you have written and make 100% sure that this is what you want the public to see forever before hitting the [Submit] button.
The follow up post is in response to the Reddit style remarks directed towards the OP, and towards me.
I do not control how someone feels.
I only control my own words.
I stand by the follow up and the intended message of the OP.
Again.
The OP was not directed towards anyone specifically.
It was not intended to preach to the choir.
I am always open to constructive criticism and discussion.
The majority remarks offered in this thread have in no way represented anything constructive.
My constructive feedback, not criticism would be to take some extra time to craft your words more carefully and then you won't have to defend your writing style.
I practice my own writing style called,
Defensive writing
That is I can defend anything I post to any forum. If I couldn't or can't, then I don't post it. I'm a veteran of the Zaino vs NXT wars and I'm completely understand from experience how a SINGLE WORD can cause a flame war.
Thus I have practiced the art of defensive writing since the Zaino vs NXT wars and highly recommend the practice to others. That is make sure what you write is accurate, helpful and friendly or don't post it at all.
Yeah, I'm sorta new. And even though you say you are not bothered by about how a lot of people have reacted to your OP. You keep coming back to explain yourself. So obviously you do care.
You need to understand that when you post everything in huge letters like that, and in bold, that people are going to be highly focused on that, because that is the way you set it up to be with all those loud words.
And you said, "A Word To All Waterless and Rinseless Wash Users:". That's when things started to go a little sour, because no matter what you wrote afterwards, you just put that in huge letters.
So everyone is already assuming you are talking about EVERYONE who uses Waterless and Rinseless. Even Long time veteran users of these products. So it will seem as preaching to the choir.
I can see you're point about just letting others know so they can learn a proper way of doing things.
But your way about saying it, and the tone you said it in, seemed rather Dr. Phil-ish. And like you were speaking down on everyone here.
Next time, I would consider offering your information up as something that could be of benefit to others. Like:
"Through my experiences, I have learned some techniques that could be helpful, and beneficial to all Rinseless and Waterless Wash users"
That way it wouldn't sound like people are being TOLD how to do something. Rather some helpful information is being offered for those who could, or would like to be benefited by it.
There should be no surprise to the way people have reacted to the OP. It's just the way it was written, rather than what you meant to convey.
Now, I do appreciate that you have some very helpful information indeed to learn from, And I do not feel you outrightly wanted to come out and sound that way. Which you already have said. So with all that said hopefully we can continue to have a nice post, since this is something I need to learn about anyway.
Thanks,
Ray
Very well written Ray.
And I appreciate how you went on to give not only constructive feedback but you also went the extra mile to provide an example of how to word a message for a forum and it's membership to avoid any accidental misconceptions.
I'm going to trim your OP down a bit, so one could argue that it is now taken out of context. Nevertheless, I'll try to highlight why some people are offended.
In the title of the thread and in this text, you have addressed it to "all" waterless and rinseless wash users. That includes newbies and experienced users of both products.
It's generally uncouth to encompass absolutes in messages like this because you assume too much.
Whether you intended insult or not is often irrelevant because the impact of words is what drives people to retort.
In this case, people reacted strongly.
I might suggest that you consider your words more carefully next time, because even though you aren't responsible for people's actions, your actions have unintended casual relationship.
Well written Kevin. Constructive feedback WITH providing an example on how to change or improve ones writing style to keep the focus on the topic not the way it is delivered.
You've switched to using the term "majority" now, and I still think this is problematic. Had this post been an Op-Ed in the New York Times, your message might have been more applicable. However, posted in a forum of largely experienced individuals -- many of whom perform rinseless washes regularly (I suppose they are excluded from the "all" or the "majority"?) -- I am uncertain as to whether you are initiating a call to action or trying to educate. If it's the latter, that's a bit arrogant considering the company you're in. If the former, whom are you calling to action? All of us? The majority of us? Both seem to be pretty fluent in rinseless washes.
This strikes me as opinion rather than any real claim of evidence, and I highly doubt it (when performed properly).
By referring to "anyone," you again make an absolute statement. Furthermore, this statement you make is a pretty bad assumption and by many accounts and examples on this forum can be dis-proven.
Again, another absolute and self-serving statement on your part.
I think you could have made this thread more productive rather than argumentative.
Do you have a background in writing Kevin? Or are you a lawyer in a past life?
Is this a rebuke of spray waxes or of experienced detailers who have taken a likening to spray waxes? I certainly hope not either:
Frequent Car Care is Easy Car Care
Ah.... one of my favorite products for keeping my truck clean...
Products Used
4 plush Microfiber Towels and Marine 31 Stern to Bow Waterless Wash & Wax with Carnauba
I participate in a lot of forums and was an avid user of Usenet about 25 years ago (boy, talk about flame wars), and personally I think AGO is one of the most friendly and professional environments out there.
It's a pleasure to scan and read the articles on this forum.
Thank you for stating this as this mirrors my sentiment about the forum world in general and AGO in specific.
Your post was atypical for this forum, but maybe that's your MO.
Definition of atypical. : not typical : not like the usual or normal type.
Still, a better post would have been something along the lines of
"Rinseless Washes and Waterless Washes: Effective Time Savers or Detailing's Dirty Little Secret?"
Again, this is a text book example of how to both provide constructive criticism and include examples of how to make improvements. In fact... I have an article on this topic...
A tip on giving constructive feedback...
I'm leaving in about a half hour to join Andre and Nick at the Stuart Boat Show to demonstrate how to detail boats. It's a great show and if you're in the area the weather is sunny and warm so please stop by the Marine 31 booth and say "hi".
Stuart Boat Show 2016 - Marine 31 will have a booth!
Ariel View of the Stuart Boat Show!
Here's a link to the forum rules, if you're not familiar with them please take a moment to click the link below and read them and then abide by them on this forum.
Forum Rules
Because I don't think anything else posted to this thread will benefit either the thread, the topic or our community I'm going to take advantage of rule #7 which goes like this,
7. If any thread gets off topic it will be at the discretion of the moderator to close and/or move it to moderators corner.
And a parting commment....
Sometimes you need to push away from the keyboard
If after reading something you've written and have not posted yet is causing you to wonder if it's appropriate.... that's a sign that maybe it's not appropriate. Instead of hitting the [Submit] button...
push away from they keyboard.
Maybe take a walk and then come back with a set of fresh eyes and a clear head and re-read what you've written. If you're confident it's accurate, positive and helpful then post it. If there's any question about what you've written and this can include the
style in which you've written it... maybe don't post it at all.
This thread is officially closed.
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