Although I haven't posted earlier, I saw this thread and it really 'touched me in the soul' since reminded when my daughter (actually at my avatar's picture) was born... long nights without sleeping - if something can change a man's life, it's the born of his own child.
Thought I wouldn't be able to feel 'true love' in life again, but she was born, and the most pure love filled my life again. I know what you're feeling. That's noble.
I'm really praying for you, your family and Benjamin, I wish you all the best and it's great to hear he's out of surgery and this will be gone in no time, it's already past.
Some things (like this) in life will happen just to make us stronger, like a preparation step for the long run.
Try to forget the 'bad part' of this since you already solved the main problem, and let the good things you all learned with this experience guide you through the raise of your child: This just proofs the true love (and unconditional) the parents have for their children.
Beautiful, let us updated about everything going fine.
Kind Regards.