Family member garage damage

Hammer77 said:
Let me apologize in advance as what I may say come off wrong! There is no way in hell I would put up with this as you have. He has no respect for your property! I understand the step dad side of it all, but there are limits. If you can't trust the people he hangs with in your garage do you trust them in your home? He might me a decent young guy but his so called friends who take things, no good in my book. He should have the respect for you as one who puts a roof over his head and food on the table. There is no way I would do this to my Step Dad, or allow it. Everything should be off limits, have a talk with him and your wife, make up your mind on how you feel and say it. No more "friends over" no more using your stuff. Honestly wait until the friends are there confront them all, the look on there faces will tell the story! Trust me the ones who are behind the missing items will not come around. If the wife has a problem with it, that can be a war all on it own. I know a guy who has a 28yo step son, and the son has a good job, but a few times in the last couple years the step sons car got repoed and there was Mom catching things up. If you don't set the record straight, your going to pay for a long time! Best of luck to ya.
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Or you could just put up a security camera in the garage and not tell anyone and then bust their chops when you catch them smoking buds and drinking beer.

The great thing about living in Florida is it's about 140 degrees in my garage right now and you'd die if you hung out in it. LOL.
 
I get what you mean Custmsprty. FWIW I have security cameras around my home 8 to be exact. In my home none. I have no worries on what goes in inside my home, I know everything inside. I would not have to try to catch kids smoking bud or drinking beer in my garage, because it would not be going on in the first place!
 
Hammer77 said:
I get what you mean Custmsprty. FWIW I have security cameras around my home 8 to be exact. In my home none. I have no worries on what goes in inside my home, I know everything inside. I would not have to try to catch kids smoking bud or drinking beer in my garage, because it would not be going on in the first place!
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Same here for sure.

It basically comes down to lack of respect.
 
I'm not going to get into your family issues. What I will say is that I and probably everyone in this forum can identify with you in this regard: there are family members and relatives who could care less about the way that we feel about our cars and the way that we care for the upkeep of our cars. My son and daughter just don't have the same regard for maintaining swirl-free paint, clean interiors, etc. that I do. Fine, to each his/her own. I helped my son get his car, and I gave my daughter a Honda Civic I just paid off, so they can do what they want with theirs, and I do what I want with mine. I don't let them use my car AT ALL, EVER. I know how they are. I still love them, and I always will. But my car is mine, and I won't let the way that they are affect my piece of mind. I hope that you can have your piece of mind, and you and your family will find a way through this.
 
spazzz said:
Does he do some of his own car work? Brakes,oil changes, the simple stuff. He should learn or pay for it.
Maybe he needs to learn to take the hit in his own pocket book.
Let him suffer with his own BMW repairs. He could have a really nice car starting with paint.
That step-dad thing can be rough when mom wants to spoon feed him
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It sure can, and that is exactly what is going on. I would be happy to show him how to do it again if the respect level rises. He does work, and is learning the stuff costs. Just need that to translate out of his little world, how lack of caring is costing others.
 
Hammer77 said:
Let me apologize in advance as what I may say come off wrong! There is no way in hell I would put up with this as you have. He has no respect for your property! I understand the step dad side of it all, but there are limits. If you can't trust the people he hangs with in your garage do you trust them in your home? He might me a decent young guy but his so called friends who take things, no good in my book. He should have the respect for you as one who puts a roof over his head and food on the table. There is no way I would do this to my Step Dad, or allow it. Everything should be off limits, have a talk with him and your wife, make up your mind on how you feel and say it. No more "friends over" no more using your stuff. Honestly wait until the friends are there confront them all, the look on there faces will tell the story! Trust me the ones who are behind the missing items will not come around. If the wife has a problem with it, that can be a war all on it own. I know a guy who has a 28yo step son, and the son has a good job, but a few times in the last couple years the step sons car got repoed and there was Mom catching things up. If you don't set the record straight, your going to pay for a long time! Best of luck to ya.
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No your perfectly right here, thing is Im going to catch the action. I have a spare channel on the security DVR, and will add a wide angle cam in the garage. If I'm going to accuse, I'm going to have the evidence on cam. There should be no war with footage, then it is what it is.
 
JSMet said:
I'm not going to get into your family issues. What I will say is that I and probably everyone in this forum can identify with you in this regard: there are family members and relatives who could care less about the way that we feel about our cars and the way that we care for the upkeep of our cars. My son and daughter just don't have the same regard for maintaining swirl-free paint, clean interiors, etc. that I do. Fine, to each his/her own. I helped my son get his car, and I gave my daughter a Honda Civic I just paid off, so they can do what they want with theirs, and I do what I want with mine. I don't let them use my car AT ALL, EVER. I know how they are. I still love them, and I always will. But my car is mine, and I won't let the way that they are affect my piece of mind. I hope that you can have your piece of mind, and you and your family will find a way through this.
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Exactly I know I'm over the top about certain things.... like car condition. I know things get messed up from time to time. It just gets to me when it is blatant disregard, or lack of thought process. If you screw something up..... say something, it was a mistake. Do some damage, and hope I don't notice.... that is not going to take long for me to find out. If I show you something on how to use a product, follow it. Hell every product has instructions on the label. Just this morning I found him using the pressure washer with a half gallon of soap in the mixing tank..... ###. Later the pressure washer is halfassed put away, car smeared with detail spray everywhere. At this point I am going to organize the garage, continue to lock my good stuff up which is almost everything. Install another cam in the garage. Once he used up the product left out he is on his own. At this point I think he has to spend his earned money, to learn the cost, and maybe also respecting other's time and material.

As mentioned above, once I have some footage of what is going on in the garage then its game on. I will catch whoever is stealing and causing damage.
 
My kids both helped me do their cars. It gives them a little more respect, and helps them see what I see. They both know my car is my baby and respect it the way they should. It's because of that respect that when I take it to the track I'll let my son make a couple runs with it. My daughter needs a little more wheel time before I turn her loose on the track.
What year is the ZL1?
 
Nor Cal ZL1 said:
Said wife with said car for you Bob

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^^^ :props: ^^^

Bob
 
DaveT435 said:
My kids both helped me do their cars. It gives them a little more respect, and helps them see what I see. They both know my car is my baby and respect it the way they should. It's because of that respect that when I take it to the track I'll let my son make a couple runs with it. My daughter needs a little more wheel time before I turn her loose on the track.
What year is the ZL1?
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The ZL1 is a 2013 with about 20K miles. A few mods running 600 plus at the wheels. Real fun car, I adore it. It goes out for track days and lots of long road trips.I am in the garage right now prepping it for a show on Monday, a veterans benefit. I figure I am a Vet, so why not. Not expecting to win anything, for fun.
 
O.M.G! Is she TOUCHING the car BARE-HANDED!!! Without even a microfiber cloth between her and the paint?? :laughing:
 
JSMet said:
I'm not going to get into your family issues. What I will say is that I and probably everyone in this forum can identify with you in this regard: there are family members and relatives who could care less about the way that we feel about our cars and the way that we care for the upkeep of our cars.
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agree and well said. I've always been a car-guy and my entire family knows it. My wife is a decorating queen and everyone knows it, etc. We all have our thing. I've been married 26yrs and faithful the whole time; my wife knows I cheat on her with food as I love to eat when I travel, and I love me some cool cars of all kinds. :)

My kids are only 10 and 13 but my son is growing to be a car-guy. I think his friends know he has a "cool dad" who will likely insure he too has a "cool car" at least to a certain extent and they are grooming him for me in a way. That said his one friend almost had a tragic situation when he actually attempted to lean his bike up on my car one day! His kick-stand is broken and he does that at his house. I had to explain the tragedy that would result if he did that at our home and that when he goes inside, we leave our shoes in the mud room and don't walk around in nasty dirty socks (in case his were) either. Needless to say, I'm likely and odd-bird to him but then I know he enjoys all that our home has to offer too.

I don't let them use my car AT ALL, EVER. I know how they are. I still love them, and I always will. But my car is mine, and I won't let the way that they are affect my piece of mind. I hope that you can have your piece of mind, and you and your family will find a way through this.
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I'm like that with my wife. She really has no interest in driving my car though. My last one she 'snuck' out one time while I was traveling but then embarrassed herself not knowing how to put it in reverse and that ended that.

Good luck to the OP'er. Hope you are able to eventually work things out.
 
pdqgp said:
agree and well said. I've always been a car-guy and my entire family knows it. My wife is a decorating queen and everyone knows it, etc. We all have our thing. I've been married 26yrs and faithful the whole time; my wife knows I cheat on her with food as I love to eat when I travel, and I love me some cool cars of all kinds. :)

My kids are only 10 and 13 but my son is growing to be a car-guy. I think his friends know he has a "cool dad" who will likely insure he too has a "cool car" at least to a certain extent and they are grooming him for me in a way. That said his one friend almost had a tragic situation when he actually attempted to lean his bike up on my car one day! His kick-stand is broken and he does that at his house. I had to explain the tragedy that would result if he did that at our home and that when he goes inside, we leave our shoes in the mud room and don't walk around in nasty dirty socks (in case his were) either. Needless to say, I'm likely and odd-bird to him but then I know he enjoys all that our home has to offer too.



I'm like that with my wife. She really has no interest in driving my car though. My last one she 'snuck' out one time while I was traveling but then embarrassed herself not knowing how to put it in reverse and that ended that.

Good luck to the OP'er. Hope you are able to eventually work things out.
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Wow lean a bike against your Audi? Thats crazy what are today's kids thinking? The world needs more OCD parents.

Wife has driven the car once, I wanted her to just in case we ever needed to say drive home after a party or something, though if we take my car Im the DD. She drove it just fine, except going down the freeway in 3rd with 3 to go at first. She did make it into 5th but had never driven a 6 speed so that was good enough. When we stopped for fuel the car was about 10 feet from the pump. She had fun but has no desire to drive it unless absolutely needed.
 
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