Throwing in the towel...

TH3M B0N3Z

TH3M B0N3Z

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Just wanted to say that I'm pretty much throwing in the towel when it comes to detailing. I'm sick of it. I'm pretty much sick of everything at this point... work... life... it's all a damn joke. What little bit of sanity I have left is somehow keeping me from quitting my job, keying the hell out of my car, and quitting life in general. Every ounce of effort I put into anything just backfires on me. I detail my car for 8 hours, the sealant lasts for 2 weeks after a rainstorm. I don't get it. I'm plain sick of it. I figure I'll need to be doped up on God knows what in order to get through a weekly washing anymore.

So you won't see me on these forums much at all, if at all. I'm done.
 
In every way imaginable and sincere I wish you the best of luck.
 
Take a week vacation away (if possible) from all things detailing. Maybe even away from cars/trucks (again, if possible). Maybe on a beach or maybe camping. It really might help you regain some tolerance and perspective. I wish you the best. And remember, we as humans have the unique ability to adapt to about anything. You might be surprised how a break from something might spark your interest in something else and maybe leading to a new path.
 
+1 to what azure said. I've taken the past two weeks off from beating the hell out of myself with jobs. Went to the beach and I'm going again Tuesday. I've lined up my first two appointments this month today and I'm ready to get back at it.

Take a break. It's good for ya.

Sent from my DROID RAZR using AG Online
 
I feel your pain man there was a time i lost my house when my wife got sick. Then her dad had to get his leg amputated and he didn't have anyone to help him at the VA hospital so we had to drive an hour everyday just to feed him. VA food is ridiculously terrible. Definitively a hard time in my life but I've bounced back and plan on opening up my business again at the end of the month. Also as i was getting back on my feet i fought and struggled now I'm about to get my associate's degree in criminal justice. If i can come back from all that man you can too. Please keep your head up and dont give up. I'm pulling for ya
 
Keep you head up brother take a break from everything, I think the main thing would be get away from work. Take a little time off so you can refresh yourself. There is nothing more crappy than the day to day repetitive crap. I am feeling a little like you right now.
 
There is no where near enough back info to offer advice but good luck


make sure that the reasons you are sick of your life (forget about detailing) are valid and true.. Meaning, just cause things don't go your wat you need hate yourself

When something good happens, be happy and when something bad happens, laugh :) because it's life

Seems like you need to build self confidence more than anything
 
Sealant only lasted two weeks? What were you using?

Nobody on here would believe it, but NXT 2.0 is still beading water on my truck and I applied that back in November.

Take a break from the cleaning, detailing is not meant to cause illness of the mind or body.
 
Are you detailing for a living?

I've had detailing failures / life screw-ups as well, we all have:

1. OptiCoat washed away. I didn't prep right? Spent 5 days polishing and prepping for that.

2. Dropped a bucket and put a dent in my fender.

3. Burned through paint on my SUVs bumper going after a scratch and payed $$$ for re-paint

4. Put a key like scratch in B Pillar of same SUV while polishing out the roof. Still don't know how it happened. But it was t their before

5. Lowered garage door on rear bumper of my BMW - that was 6 months after my girlfriends did the same exact thing - same exact car.

6 And, the worse, big screw up at work recently. I typed directions on a prescription "3 times a day" instead of "3 times a week". I didn't catch the mistake until after person was taking the medication for a week. .

I had to call the person and their physician and explain the whole thing. Nobody was very happy.

7. And... I've had worse issues / screw ups in my past is rather not go into here. Things that took years to fix

Things get screwed up for everyone. Sometimes its a mistake, sometimes its carelessness, sometime you don't know why or how it happened. Take a break, it will get better. For whatever reason, a lot of bad things happen at once.
 
To all of you who have endured hard times...

Believe me I know what all of you mean. I could go on like everyone else with hard luck war stories but I won't. What I will say is the obvious, it could be worse. Let's look at this for a moment...

People who have lost their children to some misfortune.
People who have lost a limb, sight, hearing.
People with incurable diseases.
People who live in 3rd world countries (no running water or no shelter).
Children never knowing who their mothers are.
The list can be endless.

How bad is a scratch on our cars or some sealant wore off prematurely?
The fact that we can enjoy this crazy hobby/business is a blessing in itself. Let's not get it twisted, there is a big difference between misfortune and disappointment.

We are so lucky!!!
 
I was in a coma, and on life support for 4 months.

They told my family to call everyone I wasn't going to make it through the first night/ then I was going to be a vegetable or paralyzed.

I had to relearn everything, walking,talking, eating, even wipe my own ASS! (excuse the language, just trying to make a point)

I walk with a limp and have a speech problem, I have trouble with a lot of things.

•The things I have trouble with I am going to improve.
•The things I can do I am going to master them.
•In the end I am just going to master everything.

In the rehabilitation center I made a lot of friends, just like i have here on AG
Some of the friends at Casa Colina Center for Rehabilitation Pomona,CA. can never walk again. (EVER!)

Some are vegetables and will be needing to be taken care of like a new born.

Call this number, maybe they can help.
1 (800) 784-2433

Good luck and may God bless you.
 
Hey listen,

There are a lot of good people on here trying to help you through this. Every one is pointing out life experiences that have happened to them sometime during their life. We are all here trying to help you through this. Don't give up.

I just went out to the garage to do my weekly wipe down and discovered nasty water spotting on the right rear quarter of my BMW after I thought I had taken care of it 2 weeks ago. Last time I wanted to go easy on it with SPF and a white hybrid pad on my 3401. It was taken care or so i thought as I pulled it out in the sun to verify. I waxed the corner and went out to my car show and even then the next day no water spots.

Now 2 weeks later while doing my weekly routine I see the spotting return only half as bad. You better believe I am upset and feel set back but now I have a real valid reason to go to town with a full multi step correction to fix the spotting as well as other rids throughout the car.

Bottom line, life is tough sometimes and will try to knock you down. It's up to you to get back up swinging and show the world your not afraid to take a few hits.

Now get out their and show the world soldier!
 
TH3M B0N3Z said:
Just wanted to say that I'm pretty much throwing in the towel when it comes to detailing. I'm sick of it. I'm pretty much sick of everything at this point... work... life... it's all a damn joke. What little bit of sanity I have left is somehow keeping me from quitting my job, keying the hell out of my car, and quitting life in general. Every ounce of effort I put into anything just backfires on me. I detail my car for 8 hours, the sealant lasts for 2 weeks after a rainstorm. I don't get it. I'm plain sick of it. I figure I'll need to be doped up on God knows what in order to get through a weekly washing anymore.

So you won't see me on these forums much at all, if at all. I'm done.
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Heartbreaking post. I've been through a load of crap during my time here on Earth. If you need someone to talk to, please PM me and I'll get you my phone number

Hang in there bud
 
First, I have been through so many rough times in my life that I never saw coming. Somehow I got through them. I think what everyone is saying here is we have all felt like you at one time or another and life throws some rough challenges at us. More importantly everyone is telling you that they care about you and what you are going through. Hang in there.
 
TH3M B0N3Z said:
Just wanted to say that I'm pretty much throwing in the towel when it comes to detailing. I'm sick of it. I'm pretty much sick of everything at this point... work... life... it's all a damn joke. What little bit of sanity I have left is somehow keeping me from quitting my job, keying the hell out of my car, and quitting life in general. Every ounce of effort I put into anything just backfires on me. I detail my car for 8 hours, the sealant lasts for 2 weeks after a rainstorm. I don't get it. I'm plain sick of it. I figure I'll need to be doped up on God knows what in order to get through a weekly washing anymore.

So you won't see me on these forums much at all, if at all. I'm done.
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Guess he has not come back to read all the support and everyone else's issues.
 
The person that taught me how to polish with a rotary years ago gave me some advice I take to this day: "If it's just not happening that day, back off and go bake a cake." He was so right.

Also, remember that detailing is not an exact science, it is more of a chemical experiment with some art thrown in. You can do everything right and have it turn out badly. And you can do everything wrong and have it turn out great. There are too many variables outside of your control. Humidity, product packaging, age of product, handling while shipping, temperature, on and on and on.

So go bake a cake, in your case several, cut yourself some slack, and come back. You can do it :xyxthumbs:
 
Be nice to yourself. Learn from your mistakes and life experiences and move on.

The harder life is the more you learn.
 
From reading from all our fellas here in the forum or thread , I bet you need some kind of a big break mate . Keep it on fella ( op ) I had lots of problems myself , father s death last year , lost my job due to diabetics , earn less than half than what I earn 3-4 years back . Just did 18 freakin hrs last week due to the lack of job where I work . But I m in some forums trying to learn new stuff & change my ideas , it s basically what I m doing right now .
 
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