How to convince a wife who has NO concept of the addiction that I need more stuff?

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I'e decided that I'm going to try McKee's Polish Prep, Paint Coating, Xtreme Foam Wash and the HG Detail Spray. I plan on getting the wash soap and the detail spray in the gallon containers so my bill will likely be about $161.00 before shipping. Now just HOW am I going to get the wife NOT to have a fit when she sees the bill? Her first response (guaranteed) is going to be "Don't you have enough *stuff* already?" or "What about all the *stuff* you already have?"


She doesn't have any concept of the NEED to get more stuff and experiment on the car, she doesn't understand the strength and power of the addiction.

What shall I do?
 
I got divorced and no longer have to concern myself with what her response will be! LOL
 
Phone a friend.

Give him cash and have them place and receive the order.

Do something nice for significant other to somehow justify in your mind that it's ok.:xyxthumbs:
 
Don M said:
...she sees the bill?...
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Mistake #1. Ha!

There's no way to explain it to the wifey w/o getting into *some* sort of trouble. Now I get all of my small orders shipped to work and save the larger purchases for when i need to explain to her why I need xyz.
 
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Bob
 
damaged442 said:
I got divorced and no longer have to concern myself with what her response will be! LOL
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I think my obsession with my car MAY push her over that edge, but then I would have to sell the car in the settlement then I WON'T need the new stuff

Mantilgh said:
Phone a friend.

Give him cash and have them place and receive the order.

Do something nice for significant other to somehow justify in your mind that it's ok.:xyxthumbs:
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Unfortunately, the only time I see cash is when I detail a car for someone else and she likes for me to put that on bills ... that and she keeps an eagle eye on the check book :(
 
Don M said:
I think my obsession with my car MAY push her over that edge, but then I would have to sell the car in the settlement then I WON'T need the new stuff



Unfortunately, the only time I see cash is when I detail a car for someone else and she likes for me to put that on bills
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1. Hire a better lawyer.

2. Bills? Psshhh.....


Getting someone else to go along with our addiction is hard. People just wont understand. I wish you the best my friend!

(EDIT: Please note the first two answers had a heavy sarcasm voice applied)
 
Good luck. You may be better off using up your other "stuff".
 
That's why I love fed-x gets here while I am home. and she is at work. LOL. But she is well aware of my detailing madness and has no issues with it.
 
Probably have to make an arrangement of the cars you detail for money the money goes to your own new supplies. Now go find some jobs at least 160 dollars worth


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Mantilgh said:
Do something nice for significant other to somehow justify in your mind that it's ok.:xyxthumbs:
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I'm lucky in that my wife understands that this is my thing. 2 things I've done to help hedge my bets for not getting a hard time for spending so much on the stuff:

1. Explain the benefit of it. Example - I told her up front how much it was going to cost to get a rinseless wash setup, what it was, and why I thought it was the way to go. Time being a huge missing resource, she was on board for anything to make getting cars clean faster. I'd view coatings in the same territory.

2. Keep her car clean. I'll generally give her car a once-over before doing my own as a thank you for her understanding that I'm just a geek about this stuff. Her car is also 6 years newer than mine so I genuinely just want it looking top shelf anyway. If she doesn't have a car, maybe take something in the house to geek-level clean. I recently found out house windows/sliding doors look amazing when you clean them with waterless car wash. And they clean up easier next time.
 
Well brother, I mean this with all the respect in the world, if I offend I sincerely apologize. Just do it, if you work and the bills are paid, and the family is not going with out, do it. Explain to her, its not like your wasting money at the bar, or out chasing skirt. Which there is nothing wrong with those things, depends on your relationship status. But it sounds like your status is good, and you obviously want to keep it that way, that's great. Let her know how lucky she is, she doesn't have to worry where the man is, he is in the garage cleaning the car, or maybe hers too!
 
My detailing money stays in a detailing account. Start a small business, claim any money you make on your taxes, and claim any expenses including supplies. My small business only buys products I want for my car anyway. If that isn't an option buy a visa gift card at the grocery store or your bank and use that to purchase supplies.
 
How many shoes does she have? If'n it's more than 3 pair, turnabout is fair play. Nobody needs more than 3 pairs of shoes...anything over that number is excessive. Every time my wife says she is going shopping because she "...NEEDS new clothes" I remind her to rephrase as "I WANT new clothes..." because I've never seen her leave the house in nothing but a barrel.
 
Hammer77 said:
Well brother, I mean this with all the respect in the world, if I offend I sincerely apologize. Just do it, if you work and the bills are paid, and the family is not going with out, do it. Explain to her, its not like your wasting money at the bar, or out chasing skirt. Which there is nothing wrong with those things, depends on your relationship status. But it sounds like your status is good, and you obviously want to keep it that way, that's great. Let her know how lucky she is, she doesn't have to worry where the man is, he is in the garage cleaning the car, or maybe hers too!
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Agreed. This thread shouldn't be how to do it and get away with it; it should be addressing the issue at its source. Everyone's got their hobby.
 
Spend money on yourself and give her the same amount too spend on herself. Works for me! Except, I get more enjoyment form my purchases.
 
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