Anyone else unmarried? Am I weird?

[HouseofShine]

I'm 29, single and child-free; and I don't forsee that changing, because I honestly don't believe in marriage... That, and I have extremely high standards, which I don't think any woman could meet.

 

[Jab1719]

I'm 33. Been married 8 years and we have a 3 year old daughter. I couldn't imagine things any different. Sometimes the reward is worth the risk.

 

[KenR]

I'm 58 and married 30 years (2 older daughters). My wife tells me I'm very happily married, and to tell the truth, I am.
But if you confirmed bachelors are happy, then I'm happy for you. It's a big world out there and it's not one size fits all.
Enjoy!

 

[octane]

It's better to be not married, than to be and wish you were'nt!

married for 3 years, with a 2 year old son, my wife really wanted to get married, I didn't. I liked the way things were, simple... got married, and now that she fells secure, she started letting herself go and things started to get complicated

 

[WRAPT C5Z06]

LOL, that actually isn't my wife, but it's one of her good friends that was modeling my new shirts for my online store. I would hav loved for my wife to do it, but she was being a prude at that particular moment

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!

Hook me up!!!

 

[tuscarora dave]

I get unconditional love from this dog of mine, (see avitar) Regardless of how much money I bring in, what type of mood I'm in when I get home, no matter what I say around her, what friends I bring home with me or even if I yell..."GO LAY DOWN!!!", she absolutely worships the ground I walk in on. She's 15 going on 16 and she's showing her age and I'll have to put her down before long. The thought of the hurt that I'm going to feel the day I have to have her put to sleep makes me think that I won't want another dog after that. On the other hand, I can see the forest for the trees instead of projecting to the very end or outcome of the deal (which I know is going to hurt tremendously) and enjoy the her silly antics and the love and reliance that she puts on me. I am going to get hurt in the end but each and every day that I work to keep her fed and shower her with the attention that she craves, she brings me much joy.

To not get another dog when she passes because I know I'll just get hurt in the end, would be me living my life dominated by the fear of getting hurt in the end.

I used to think of a human female companion in the same light. "I'll just get hurt in the end, so why even go there?" I am still single with no kids at 41 years old because I chose to party all the time for the first 35 years of my life, thinking only of myself and my feelings, not willing to bend at all to think of how "she" might feel. If only women could be like my dog "Jack" and show unconditional love no matter what.

Having distanced myself from the parties and the circle of fair weather friends, (when my money ran out, so did they) I've learned that the only unconditional love I get is from my Dog and from God, (isn't it funny how similar they are in spelling. Any good human relationships take work, sacrifice and a willingness to put the feelings and needs of the other person first before my own then to act accordingly.

I feel that I have already missed my boat as far as the right girl is concerned, I regret that. I still fear the ending result which in my mind is pain but I'm no longer willing to be dominated by that fear so I am ready to take the leap of faith as soon as that special woman should come into my life.

Just me thinking through my keyboard. Take from it what you will, or completely dismiss it. TD

 

[Jab1719]

My in-laws have been married for 30 years. If you ask my father-in-law how long, he always responds 12 happy years. Makes me laugh every time.

 

[sohail99]

I think there's nothing weird in being single!
I'm 24(will be 25 in Oct) and I've never had any female friends and obviously never dated anyone due to that! My friends think I'm weird cuz of that but I enjoy my freedom!

I can tell them that, with the amount money they waste on their girlfriends, I buy high end waxes and polishes and love to try them on my and my parents cars!

It's gotten so weird that some even thought I was g4y! Heh! I don't mind being called that, as long as that tag keeps me away from the ladies!

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[RaskyR1]

I'm 37 and I've been married two years now. I would have been fine just continuing to date but she wanted the piece of paper and the over priced wedding we're still paying for. I don't regret my decision though because I love my wife and she gives my plenty of freedom and she understands me.

That being said, I do have several single friends in their 30's still living the dream and it makes me miss those times now and then.

As far as kinds go, they're not likely in our future as we love our freedom and get plenty of love from our pets and they put a smile on our face everyday!

 

[EPK711]

being married or being single, not having kids having kids these are all personal decisions do whatever floats your boat. but what fun is life if you don't wake up next to a lady who digs you - even if it's every blue moon. and you've never really lived unless you've suffered at the hands of a lady.

 

[Flannigan]

I'm 37 and I've been married two years now. I would have been fine just continuing to date but she wanted the piece of paper and the over priced wedding we're still paying for. I don't regret my decision though because I love my wife and she gives my plenty of freedom and she understands me.

That being said, I do have several single friends in their 30's still living the dream and it makes me miss those times now and then.

As far as kinds go, they're not likely in our future as we love our freedom and get plenty of love from our pets and they put a smile on our face everyday!

Obviously you have a good woman Chad! I think some people get caught up in not having personal freedom in a relationship. I think people need to do things on their own, and spend time apart every once in a while. Just because you don't spend every waking moment with another person doesn't mean you love them any less. :cheers: buddy!

 

[FUNX650]

I guess I come from one of the "Old School"-ways of thinking, when it comes to marriage...

To Wit:

"Find something you like and use it often" ~ (M.P.)




Bob

 

[brentech]

I'm 49, never been married, no kids, and I've been with a lot of women. Is that wrong? I'm happy with my life, because I realize marriage would lead to "unhappy". Sorry I don't conform, because everyone I know has been married at least once, and most times two or more. Or am I just a dying breed? Single?

If you're happy with the life you're living, that's all that matters.

I can only ask if you really are though, because there would be no need to ask if you're weird because of it.

If you were truly comfortable with the situation, I'd think you'd have no need in confirming your choice with a bunch of random people on the internet.

 

[RaskyR1]

Obviously you have a good woman Chad! I think some people get caught up in not having personal freedom in a relationship. I think people need to do things on their own, and spend time apart every once in a while. Just because you don't spend every waking moment with another person doesn't mean you love them any less. :cheers: buddy!

So true! :dblthumb2:

I almost married the wrong woman when I was 25 too! You know, the type who don't like you hanging out with friends and family and/or they are insecure....

I also have friends that I never see anymore because they are with the girls 24/7....sad really.

 

[WRAPT C5Z06]

I DO want to get married at some point, though. Could be soon, could be awhile from now. I'm just waiting for that special woman. :angel:

 

[Yamasixx]

I agree with what most have said on here. Both have benefits...it just depends on each circumstance. I personally am 41 and single. I have a 8 yr old that I cherish every moment of. At one point in my life I felt I really didn't like kids, but once I had one I soon realized how much I enjoyed kids. As for marriage, I kinda feel just like the OP. I've seen a ton of poor, unhappy marriages and the torture it seems to bring. I've also seen a lot of extreme unfairness when it comes to the male in the divorce....to the point they don't have enough money to live happy lives. I have also seen some very cool marriages and often ask myself how in the hell do I find one of those? In the end, I would certainly marry if the "one" came along, but I'm certainly very happy the way things are. One of the others had a good post as well....I think often of how much it would suck to be alone and old.

 

[Paul Mitchell]

I’ve been married for 39 years this August and still enjoy it. Do you know how to tell who loves you more – your wife or your dog? Lock them both in the trunk of your car for an hour and see who’s happy to see you when it’s unlocked!

Oops, gotta run. Here comes the wife. Can’t let her see this.

 

[BrightonRT]

Your not weird, it's a personal decision, I wasn't expecting the one that came my way, but then I met a girl that loved snowmobiling, boating, cars, and college football more than any girl I had ever met, and when she tells you to buy the 2-door muscle car over the sensible sedan... well we'll just say you don't let those ones go.

Been together 9 years, married for 5 this October, with the first child arriving sometime in the next 6 weeks or so... and couldn't be happier.:xyxthumbs:

 

[Shakabruddah808]

Nothing wrong with still being single. You can pretty much come and go as you please. As an added plus you can buy all the AG stuff that your heart desires. No wives or girlfriends around rolling their eyes at you and muttering: "Stupid Guy Thing!"

 

[NYCLR3]

Smart girl, she must of gone to U of M!

Your not weird, it's a personal decision, I wasn't expecting the one that came my way, but then I met a girl that loved snowmobiling, boating, cars, and college football more than any girl I had ever met, and when she tells you to buy the 2-door muscle car over the sensible sedan... well we'll just say you don't let those ones go.

Been together 9 years, married for 5 this October, with the first child arriving sometime in the next 6 weeks or so... and couldn't be happier.:xyxthumbs: